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How about you? How was YOUR day?
Titles & all of that ” ” … (introspection)
I’m often cut off mid-sentence and asked, “But..what do you wanna do?”.
Fair enough question.
(SPOILER: There are no images in this post)
I suppose operating from the gut can make sense to one’s self but not necessarily to others.
It isn’t as if I responsibly mapped out my professional trajectory like I was taught to do…Instead, I followed my heart (whatever that means) and learned important lessons along the way. But, that doesn’t help clarify things, does it?
Unfortunately, passion can lack the efficient jargon demanded by those who wish to make a quick assessment of another’s perceived added value.
How silly was I to add “passion” to the bulletpoints on my resume? The entire Dalek population would explode attempting to grasp this concept.
Passion is tough to quantify. Just ask any successful entrepreneur.
That said, using a wordcloud tool has failed to capture the essence of the value I can add to any organization – instinct, experience, heart, loyalty, intuition, perserverance, empathy, connection, et al…These terms are not trending on LinkedIn – Google alerts would’ve informed me, and I just checked.
So, since my unorthodox list of accomplishments are invisible to search engines (and, incomprehensible to Daleks), I decided to explicity define “success” for myself as a courtesy to my new friends and acquaintances.
Here is what my point B looks like:
*You’re having your A.M. coffee while reading about the biggest networking event of the year on a page in the WSJ.
(Blurb for one of many well-known international events)
The text reads:
Notable Speakers include:
Abby Joseph Cohen one of the most respected figures in investing circles and is the chief US investment strategist for Goldman Sachs Group, Inc.
Anna Wintour, Editor-in-Chief, Vogue
Carrie Fisher, Actress best known as Princess Leia
Meg Gomez, Makes handmade stationery & sells them on Etsy
Sarah Blakely, CEO & Founder, Spanx
Genevieve Bos, Founding Publisher, Pink Magazine
Sheila Kahanek, former Accountant, Enron.
*end scene
I hope that helped clarify some things for you.
Have a great weekend!!!
Best,
Meg
*end scene
;P(SPOILER: To be continued…)
Harvard Business Review discusses: Work Addiction (#HBRChat)
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The Art of Being Well-dressed: Superfluous or Essential? Both.
Introduction
Some consider the art of dressing, fashion and styling as a superfluous use of one’s time and energy. They’re right. Fashion can be overthought and when combined with the forces of retail marketing, fashion can result in addiction to consumption.
The Hollywood cliché of the teenage girl’s obsession with her image, shopping with her friends and becoming an over-accessorized one dimensional version of her true potential stems from a very real power fashion magazines, shows and other media have on our values. It can be a limiting existence to live life pursuing an impossible opportunity to become another Kardashian sister.
However, if taken seriously without being obsessively vain, the art of dressing becomes a tool for the sophisticated individual. Fashion – or, in the case of our topic, dressing – is akin to a product’s packaging in that it serves several important roles.
We liken the importance of dressing to the importance of a container; both are extensions of the product itself and both help create a product’s appeal, ensure its preservation, and operates as a means of communication between the brand and its target market.
Packaging 101
If you open most books about packaging, you’ll learn that an effective package provides a product with the following:
- Containment
- Protection
- Convenience
- Information
- Marketing
As a professional possessing valuable skills and talent to offer the world you, too, are a product that needs to be packaged appropriately to appeal to the audience you aim to reach.
Think about it. If a product’s packaging didn’t accurately reflect its contents, how would the buyer react upon discovering that the delicious marshmallows he brought home from the store were instead a package of raw tofu???
Being inappropriately ‘packaged’ will result in disappointments.
Proper Packaging: clothing that serves its purpose
So, how exactly do we package ourselves? Glad you asked.
Dressing up or down (or not at all) can be fun. However, when functioning in society, there are responsibilities we must honor before fulfilling our desire to amuse ourselves and do whatever we’d like without regard for rules.
Like a product’s container, our clothing must serve its primary functions before it acts as an extension of our individuality and brand’s message. Typography is useless on a box that doesn’t properly secure the eggs on its way to your kitchen from the grocery store.
In other words your clothes have responsibilites. Your clothing need to fulfill their responsibilities before they can scream, “Louis Vuitton!”.
As a courtesy, we’ve developed a guideline in the form of a checklist to make sure your outfit is at the very least serving its primary purpose.
Checklist:
1. Containment – Does it sufficiently contain and cover its contents?
2. Protection – Is your outfit appropriate for the environment, weather, social context you’ll be wearing it to? (i.e. flip flops outdoors during a snowstorm, etc…)
3. Convenience – Does your clothing allow you to move comfortably and with ease? Does it fit you properly? Will you have difficulty performing at your optimum level in these clothes?
4. Information – What message does your clothing communicate to society as a whole?
5. Marketing – Are you wearing any symbols or styles that will connect with the specific group you wish to appeal to? Will your market be attracted to you given how you are presented?
(To be continued…)
How to effectively communicate with ANYONE…(guide)
I receive applicable and straightforward career advice by listening to the Manager Tools, LLC podcast.
One of the topics I found most useful is what hosts, Mark and Mike, refer to as “behavioral diversity”. In simple terms, behavioral diversity refers to the concept that our tendencies are some combination of four broad categories represented by the letters D,I,S & C in the DiSC model.
I won’t go into DiSC theory here as it is lengthy and there are better resources of information for this behavior identification model. You also have to take a test to better understand your own behavioral profile.
That said, if you’re already somewhat familiar with DiSC, the outline we provide in this post (below) of the basic behavior types may serve as a useful communication reference guide.
As Mark often says (via Drucker, perhaps), “communication is what the listener does”.
Cheers!
Meg & the Ponies
Please note: the DiSC information was published and is owned by
© 2012 Manager Tools, LLC. All rights reserved
You will make all kinds of mistakes…
Women In Business (Infographic)
From Blogger to Intern: Lucy’s fashion internship at NorthSix… (magazine)
Glossy Magazine Issue 7…
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Pink Ponies Pins! (Pinterest)
Career-Chic Sophisticate – A Visual Inspiration List…
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| classic trousers + blouse |
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| nude nails |
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| Black + grey pumps |
What inspires your career wardrobe style?
For more images from my ever-growing list…visit PinkPoniesPins on Pinterest.
More on professional wear: Harper Bazaar’s How to Dress for Success article
Retrospectives: Gen.Y Rants on Relationships… (no pictures)
I’ve screwed up simple situations that most of you would’ve probably handled with more maturity, tact and foresight.
*enter growing pains + embarrassing realizations
I take time to wax introspective on my behavior, my thinking, my values, et cetera…to understand how I managed to make silly mistakes that my friends claim they wouldn’t have made. I mull this over until I’m satisfied and have come to grips with how I screwed up or inadvertently created a negative impression on others. (Please don’t ask why I spend too much time reflecting)
That being said, I’m certain all failing results I’ve been part of aren’t always caused primarily by my deficiencies. Deciding whom to blame is not a productive activity; it’s a waste of time.
OBJECTIVE:
However, I’m hoping my insight and reflection will provide perspective that will help others who like to mull things over.
CONCLUSION:
I’ve decided that a lot of times, errors are combinations of misinterpreted facts, emotionally-charged mis-judgements and unnecessary conclusions people make about others.
The problem is, often times we tend to think our abilities to decipher and decode human behavior are a gazillion times better than they actually are. Sadly, we are only wasting our time when we sit and analyze others’ actions to try and determine WHY they behave the way they do.
Fact is, people’s motivations change all the time. Even if you pinpoint another’s motives and intentions, they aren’t helpful. For instance, if you’re someone’s boss, then your role requires you reduce risk by assessing others’ behaviors to predict their future behaviors – not judge your direct’s value as an individual.
CHALLENGES:
A. Needless to say, a person who believes he/she has the natural Freudian acumen and capacity (and time) to analyze enough behavioral data to comprehend others’ intentions is ineffective.
Again, ineffective. Why?
- you’re not Freud.
- you’re not smart enough to make those conclusions.
- you don’t know the person’s background (even if you do dig and waste time and resources to find background information about a person)
- you’re not in the person’s head.
- Your conclusions don’t matter and will probably won’t contribute to your overall purpose.
Hello, 2012!!! I Resolve To Become A Better Leader!
…so far, I’ve accomplished all four in the last 20+ years.
For further details and the rest of the article, visit Meg.Email’s blog.
Carpe Diem!!!
Youth In The Office – Called out comment (Forbes.com) repost
Our response:
“ Dear youth in the office: I, too, belong in this group. And, I, too, have felt your frustration. I’ve held various occupations since I was 16, and I’ve pushed paper in Dilbert’s office. I struggle between not feeling on track to achieve my full potential and a reality check. If I may make a suggestion that would provide you with a fresh set of eyes, it would be this: …
Sit in a “real” diner. One that Jonathan Gold would never been interested in visiting. Perhaps one in a struggling small town. Take a seat, look into the kitchen and observe the hourly workers prepare your meal.
Breathing in fumes and lard day after day in hairnets covered in grease…Then observe them when they clean up at the end of the day. Rinsing the kitchen mats, rinsing other people’s food off dishes, mopping the floor (I used to whine about this). Then reflect on your perspective again. Passion about one’s work often comes from being proud of the job you’ve done no matter what type of work you do. Pride in one’s work brings the “joy” you described. Enjoyment in one’s work comes with the sense of ownership you get when you give even the smallest paper-pushing task your absolute best effort while biting your tongue. It comes from feeling like you’ve grown and have crossed a rite of passage. All those people at the top whom I admire and strive to emulate have had to “do the dishes” at some point in their lives. It’s a prerequisite and a rite of passage for anyone on the path to achievement. Best of luck to you. Onward!“
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Ten years in "corporate America"…
in case you didn’t know…
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What I did to stay on point for today’s interview…
prepare for a competition? Well,
that’s sorta how I prep for an interview.
try to get in my “flow”.
interview pointers? Here’s some background:
first gig), and I’ve experienced answering controversial questions confidently
with a big smile wearing a bikini and five-inch pumps on stage with girls who
are prettier, taller more “dazzling” than me, et cetera…and I’ve scored better
than they did in interviews. I landed my internship with a cold call. Between
my part-time jobs, volunteer jobs, and full-time work, I’ve probably been
interviewed and sized up by at least 25 hiring managers (and actual judges).
can honestly say I’m comfortable during interviews.
be speaking with big-boys (and big-girls) in first-rate companies. These
companies are not “Mickey-Mouse” organizations; they demand a certain level of
professionalism and respect. If the person you’re interviewing with also
screens executive candidates, then they’re probably pretty good at judging
character. So, don’t B.S. them. A hiring manager isn’t going to be forgiving if
I’m less than par because I said “sorry” in a sweet voice. These are
professionals with a job to do and my job is to make their job easier by being
prepared, honest and cooperative (unless I don’t want the job).
I bring it.
At the bare minimum, you must do your homework.
no such thing as being too prepared – only unprepared.
professional and not like a rookie because that’s who I am. Also, recruiters
and managers are less forgiving about my small mistakes because I have years of
experience and they expect me to know better. And, they’re right! Step up
or get off the plate!
organization, its history, values and culture. And, more importantly, an
understanding of the job you’re being considered for. You might think this is
inconsequential because you’ll be learning about the company from the
recruiter, but trust me, they notice and they appreciate someone who takes
initiative. Not only that, but jumping into an organization without
understanding what the culture is like is just plain silly.
your values don’t align with the people you work with, you’ll never advance in
the long run at that place.
interviewing as well as the company itself. I also have a checklist that I
complete before the actual interview. Within this checklist is a rating system
to gauge how much I truly want the job with the company.
is a two-way street afterall, and I’m interviewing companies just as much as
they’re interviewing me.
and I’m not willing to settle for a something that is not a good fit. Also,
there’s no way I can single-handedly change the culture of an organization to
suit my style no matter how much passion or tenacity or drive I possess.
know my weaknesses.
trajectory in the long-run, I have to first understand what I want from an
employer then be honest about whether they are willing to and have the ability
to provide these things for me.
in mind: this is a negotiation.
absolute best to provide the company with as much value as I can in the manner
by which I’m able and within the context of my formal role. By accepting a job
offer,
obligated to do what’s expected.
with. I’m in it all the way. It’s a big deal and a formal commitment. And,
because I take what they asked of me seriously, I expect their investment in me
as well. I call this, “healthy relationship”. This reminds me of what my friend
tells his three-year old when she doesn’t want to do something she’s supposed
to,
wanna be a big girl? Then, act like a big girl.”
lazy. Other times I’m tired, or immature. I find it tough to be on point 24/7.
I like being goofy at times. And, I appreciate the different roles I have in
life. However, when the situation calls for it, I come through. I have to. Not
behaving like a ‘big girl’ during situations that call for maturity and
commitment cause major problems. Stay on point.
interview immediately after the first interview today. The proof is in
the pudding. =)
The Next Great Generation (Twitter chat)
Thanks, TNGG for hosting this chat regarding Gen Y and what we think about the current job market. Below are our feedback and suggestions and the link to the original article on the TNGG’s site.
3P
Link to article on TNGG
Hobbies that keep you relevant (images)
Embrace the robocalypse!
While you may not associate the activities below with traditional business-folk-type of activities (read: Jack Welch doesn’t “do” web design), there are important correlations between the skills in employees employers find valuable and these not-so-typical hobbies…
1.Web Design: What competitive company doesn’t have or want an amazing website? Online sites are the medium of communication of
2.Blogging and Journaling: Aside from the obvious health benefits of writing in a journal (stress reducer), writing and blogging only helps improve your writing and thinking. If you recognize the importance of being an effective communicator and having “voice flexibility” (business format, web format, stage format, et cetera…), you would certainly find writing exercises one way to help with this…how do I know? From my own improvement: I already write better now than I did at 4:45am today.
3.Reading: Specifically, our blog… (Do I need to justify this?)
essie@myprettypinkponies.com
Wharton comments on "Masculine Norms" and how they affect women’s career trajectories…
I don’t understand why professional norms are classified as either “masculine” or “feminine”. Perhaps a professional norm is sufficient without the hyper-focus on gender issues which mostly create unnecessary inflammation around examples.
‘Masculine Norms’: Why Working Women Find It Hard to Reach the Top – Knowledge@Wharton
‘Masculine Norms’: Why Working Women Find It Hard to Reach the Top – Knowledge@Wharton
‘Masculine Norms’: Why Working Women Find It Hard to Reach the Top – Knowledge@Wharton
Professional Wardrobe: Creative vs. Traditional fields (images)
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What defines a “creative industry”?
Generally, “creative” companies in various sectors create ‘widgets’ that are unique and based on intellectual inspiration. Creative fields include: advertising, architecture, publishing, software, art, design, fashion, film, music, games, TV, video games, etc….
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| Have you seen anything like this on the market? |
The creative individual’s personal “brand” is the value they add to their organization, thus, they wear their brand proudly on their sleeve.
Traditional corporate environments emphasize the organization’s vision, and each employee’s objective is to execute orders given from the top of the chain. There is less importance placed on a person’s uniqueness. If you’re not in position to command orders, you’re not being paid to come up with ideas. Ideas and best practices are provided to you.
In other words, each group or functional division operates as one unit (read: everyone dresses alike) carrying out tasks outlined by the head of their departments. A blueprint for how things are done most effectively is in place and provides guidelines for the most efficient way tasks should be carried out.
The focus is on the organization as a whole and the objective is to carry-out processes vital for the organization’s life. Innovative ideas are provided by the organization’s leaders whose experience and expertise provide the group with the best direction to take. Leadership in these organizations are paid to figure things out and make decisions; others are paid to carry them out.
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| “Separately, we are organized, results-driven and efficient. Together, we are a well-functioning machine that will ensure your day-to-day operations are run effectively.” |
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| “Our business unit has a process in place that can produce those widgets in half the time. We, as a unit, are important to the organization’s bottom line.” |
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| Each individual piece must fit well and operate under the same cadence to make the machine run smoothly. |
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| “Give me an assignment, and you can consider it done. I have a Navy Seals background and my goal is to help carry our team forward.” |
While I make broad generalizations to illustrate my points, each office has its own culture and a smart job candidate will observe his/her surroundings to gain an understanding of culture. Until then, prevent being a distraction by erring on the traditional side and observe people to understand what is generally acceptable in your new office environment.
Any healthy and productive organization will incorporate elements of each “type” in varying degrees depending on short-term and long-term goals.
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(**note: representations of “styles” in the above images are in sterile and generic form to illustrate points more clearly. We understand this is not necessarily an accurate representation of groups as wholes. Again, images are for demonstrative purposes only. Thanks.)
Source(s):
Imaginization: The Art of Creative Management (business models)
Kelly Wearstler article by the NY Post
Harper Bazaar’s How to Dress for Success article
Do you make a great first impression?
(Note: If you are not interested in being likeable, please stop reading)
Forget about eye-contact and firm handshakes, here are three ways to make a lasting impression…
related articles:
“10 ways to make more time for yourself” by chronicbabe.com
“Nice girl = Bad Networker” (Thanks to Connected Life)
Closet Essentials – what do you wear when you work from home? (images)

I. BEING PUT-TOGETHER AT HOME
I miss writing about office-wear.
I miss wearing office-wear.
If this is your first visit to 3P, I’ll prepare you for what some have called my “vain” side. I’m into wardrobe, shopping and trying to look my best (call me a “girl”). That said, even when I’m at home, I’m somehow more productive when I’ve taken the time to “put myself together. Continuing to “dress for the day” helps keep my priorities in a professional context. Being dressed for business tasks makes sure the television, web, and phone calls don’t distract me from what I need to do that day.
Since my current priorities mostly involve conversations between recruiters and HR people online and by phone, I have to feel comfortable and at ease, without feeling so relaxed I lose my professional sensibility. In other words, bunny slippers are not part of my working-from-home wardrobe. Do you feel like a superstar right when you roll out of bed?
II. STAYING INDOORS
Interview Suit (image)
Interview Suit by prettypinkponies featuring mary jane high heels
Youth In The Office: Fed-Up! (Forbes article)
Our response:
“ Dear youth in the office: I, too, belong in this group. And, I, too, have felt your frustration. I’ve held various occupations since I was 16, and I’ve pushed paper in Dilbert’s office. I struggle between not feeling on track to achieve my full potential and a reality check. If I may make a suggestion that would provide you with a fresh set of eyes, it would be this: …
Sit in a “real” diner. One that Jonathan Gold would never been interested in visiting. Perhaps one in a struggling small town. Take a seat, look into the kitchen and observe the hourly workers prepare your meal.
Breathing in fumes and lard day after day in hairnets covered in grease…Then observe them when they clean up at the end of the day. Rinsing the kitchen mats, rinsing other people’s food off dishes, mopping the floor (I used to whine about this). Then reflect on your perspective again. Passion about one’s work often comes from being proud of the job you’ve done no matter what type of work you do. Pride in one’s work brings the “joy” you described. Enjoyment in one’s work comes with the sense of ownership you get when you give even the smallest paper-pushing task your absolute best effort while biting your tongue. It comes from feeling like you’ve grown and have crossed a rite of passage. All those people at the top whom I admire and strive to emulate have had to “do the dishes” at some point in their lives. It’s a prerequisite and a rite of passage for anyone on the path to achievement. Best of luck to you. Onward!“
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Here’s how:
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Antique buttons…(images)
…search for buttons on etsy.com or ebay to find good deals…
Wishing for a new suit, but too smart to spend hundreds of dollars? Ideas:
1. add beautiful one-of-a-kind buttons to your existing suits. (i.e. these antique brass buttons are beautiful agains a simple navy jacket)
2. No time to hunt for vintage buttons? Got bad taste? We can help…info@myprettypinkponies.com
Dressing for Fall (When "Fall" is actually still Summer) (images)
of year when you pull light sweaters out of storage anticipating a drop in
temperature.
warm out in SoCal. What does a girl do to prepare for the frigid a/c
indoors while keeping cool and fresh outdoors?
is always a smart move. It’s a great “band-aid” for unexpected
cold weather or if you drop lunch on your blouse.
that’ll keep your body cool and comfortable works well underneath a light
sweater. Below are a couple of good examples of light bouses for your professional wardrobe to take you through the change in temperature without missing a beat.
enough to wear with your warm-weather palettes. The cognac, light brown and butterscotch leather will keep you looking polished as you introduce deeper fall colors with your suits.












































