Frustrated because some people just don’t “get it”? Put your boxing gloves down. No need to break a nail over some things.
We get it. When we’re busy and under a lot of stress, we get into tons of petty fights with others. Since this isn’t productive and only adds further stress in our lives, we decided we’d figure out how to prevent from turning mild situations into ‘pi$$ing contest$’ with those we interact with. Even if you’re a pissing-contest-champion, winning pointless arguments rarely ever helps anyone move closer to their long-term goals.
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One way to prevent unnecessary stress is to improve communication.
For instance, before getting upset with others, see if you can communicate what you need effectively and in a manner the other person can understand clearly.
An article published by the Mayo Clinic (below) observes behaviors leading to stress and frustration in relationships. The article suggests preventing conflict by communicating your needs assertively without making the other person feel attacked.
As it turns out, people don’t usually care to hear what an insulting person has to say and will dismiss it – even if it is a good point.
Synopsis: Communicate what you want and need without making others feel like they’ve done something wrong.
I hate the way you speak 100 decibels louder than necessary when you’re on the phone…It’s so annoying!
Would you mind making your call in the other room for 30 minutes? I’d like to finish reading/watching TV/doing sit ups and I find it hard to focus when I hear your exciting conversation with [such-and-such].
(note: do not say this in a sarcastic and mean-spirited tone)
Ready to learn more about how to have healthy dialogue with peers, colleagues, friends, family and all human kind? Good for you!