Dear Twitter…I can’t quit you…(book review)

I recently read the book, Twitterville (2009, Shel Israel), before I committed my time on Twitter.com.

I wanted an understanding of Twitter’s history and main purpose.

What was most interesting was Israel’s belief that Twitter can be an effective tool for creating authentic “communities” of like-minded individuals providing access to others who share your passions, interests and fears eliminating geography as an impediment to making “real” connections.
While I’m excited to experience that it is possible to create a sense of authentic community online,  I notice that Twitter is also flooded with wanna-be “Social Media Experts”, “Social Media Entrepreneurs”, and various permutations of ‘bots and wanna-be marketing gurus whose contributions are not their original thoughts, but scheduled tweets of redundant thoughts with links to their sites and ads.
The result? Worthless connections with bots and phony Twitter accounts (pgs. 241-250, Twitterville).

<enter hashtags: (#Twitter, #prettypinkponies, #SEO, #marketing, #relationships, #Twitterville, #books)

Am I guilty of promoting our site via Twitter? Yes. However, I’m genuinely interested in understanding  the people behind the #hashtags. I aim to provide information I find useful and I’m not selling anything.

(warning: tangent)
*I spend a lot of time with my Twitter friends (…so much so, that my non-Twitter friends have slowly begun to resent me). I’m not bragging and I’m not necessarily proud of this. This is just how things happen to have panned out naturally.*
Anyway, while it’s pretty awesome that one can find worthwhile discussions, support, knowledge and expert opinions on Twitter, it’s not as easy as scheduling Tweets. You’ve gotta put in the time, and you’ve gotta sit through discouraging lag where you don’t connect with others for a while.
Most people become frustrated with Twitter because they don’t see the results they want overnight. They don’t understand Twitter’s non “SEO” value and buy into Klout score, numbers, “points” and computer-based algorithms that make their existence on Twitter more about marketing analytics than actually building relationships.
I’ve observed that Twitter users who truly connect are those who put themselves on the line and risk being wrong, disliked or unpopular out of loyalty for their authentic individual brands.
The others, the “so-called” digital marketers, redundantly post about digital marketing ad nauseam (yawn) and are ineffective in keeping followers engaged. The experience of building a genuine community on Twitter with relevant people (vs. buying friends) is a worthwhile lesson in patience, relationship-building, community contribution (and, naturally, social media’s version of marketing). Relationships with clients, peers, professionals, etc… aren’t built on superficial involvement via auto-tweets. The connection people want are similar to what offline relationships require – engagement and reciprocation.
People want to experience interaction with you.

The most valuable and interesting take-away from the book is Twitter’s unique ability to create success for its most generous contributors.
My point? Twitter is a great tool to connect and build solid networks that require more than tweets as the relationships develop. However, Twitter is also littered with thousands of shell accounts and calculated SEO atuo-tweets that require time to filter through.
As in most relationships, if you have the time to sit through the boring part and filter out the irrelevant individuals without content, you can make the ROI on your time spent on Twitter more than worthwhile.
Thanks for reading (and, thanks for connecting on Twitter, Facebook, our site, or in spirit).
Cheers,
(#Twitter, #prettypinkponies, #SEO, #marketing, #relationships, #Twitterville, #books)
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Gmail ninja: Productivity Tools (.pdf guide)

Earn your blackbelt in GMail efficiency! Below is a printable guide to help you master your email efficiency skills (by GMail)…

http://static.googleusercontent.com/external_content/untrusted_dlcp/www.google.com/en/us/mail/help/gmail_tips.pdf
Send an email to info@myprettypinkponies.com if you’d like the .pdf version


Meet The Family – (Will you act like a Focker?)

So,
you’ve won him over.

Before
I congratulate you, I’d like to remind you that the toughest is yet to come –
winning over his parents, his siblings and their family pets.
While
you may have done a great job planning for the holidays by buying greeting
cards and presents six months ahead of time, the invitation to meet his family
may be something you didn’t anticipate when scheduling 2011 back in 2010.
Here
are three questions that’ll help you prepare for this nerve-racking invitation:
As
with all social gathering events, I like to ponder the following three
questions when deciding what to wear, what to bring and other small details
that are key to making the best possible impression of yourself.
1.
Who
are you?
2.
Where
are you?
3.
Why
are you there?
Who
are you
?
In
other words, being confident in who you are in the face of possible rejection
can be tough. Regardless of what discomfort this might present, it’s important
to stand up for who you truly are.
Meeting
his parents isn’t your cue to turn into his mother’s vision of the perfect
woman for her son. Let go of your strategy to channel Betty Crocker and develop
a passion for collecting antique cat figurines by December. This plan is bound
to lead to disaster.
Nothing
is more impressive than a woman who is confident and comfortable in her own
skin and who handles conversations with diplomacy and grace.
If
his mother’s disappointed you’re not Betty Crocker, she’ll get over it if her
son’s happy and enjoying himself with you.
Where
are you?
Are
you meeting his family at their cozy home down South or at a fancy extravaganza
at their neighborhood’s 75th annual holiday gala? Either way, keep
in mind the occasion’s level of formality as well as the weather (in case
you’re traveling to a region you’ve never been before). It will not impress
anyone if you’re wearing your bedazzled cocktail dress to the Scrabble game
with close family and neighbors after holiday dinner. Obviously, a cozy sweater
and casual pants would be more ideal when playing with the family dog and your
date’s adorable nieces and nephews.
Err
on the side of practicality first, then decide how to express your awesome
style.
Why
are you there?
Well?
Why are you meeting his family? Are you there to learn more about how your new
boyfriend was brought up? Are you there to get to know him a little better? Or,
are you there because you’ve decided that this is an audition for an upcoming
role as their daughter-in-law? If you think a nice holiday with his fam is an
audition, don’t go.
I
repeat: don’t go.
This
trip is more about him than it is about you. Get to know his family. Get to
know him. Try and get an understanding of why he prefers pancakes to French
toast and bond with him. This isn’t your opportunity to show off your
baton-twirling act. This is your opportunity to connect with others and to show
that you’re honored to have been invited to share the holidays with their
family. What wins people over? No. Not your fancy Prada purse. You’re not going
to mingle with Bruno at the Milan fashion show (are you?).
People
are won over when you care about their interests and are considerate of their
needs. Talk about your Prada purse another time.
Best
of luck!
Meg

For other Love + Dating articles, visit MadeWomanMag.com

Nov. 26th is Shop Small Saturday!


Today is “Shop Small Saturday”! We love the charm of small stores and restaurants (some of which have been around since we were kids!).


We’ve literally met and spent time getting to know the owners and shop keepers of the above-listed stores and are impressed with their vision, persistence and professionalism. (See our reviews on Yelp!)



These hard-working “store keepers” and their teams provide the best selection of carefully chosen products,  and amazing customer service. A genuine overall experience!

We look forward to shopping today!

SUPPORT SMALL BUSINESS SATURDAY®

The 2nd annual Small Business Saturday® is
a day dedicated to supporting small businesses
on one of the busiest shopping weekends of the year.
On November 26, we’re asking millions of people to Shop Small at their favorite local stores and help fuel the economy. When we all shop small, it will be huge.

PLEDGE TO SHOP SMALL ON NOV 26

(Read more about Small Business Saturday here)

Re-post: Recognizing Uzo (NARS) for being such a class act!

Thank you for the rockstar treatment…

…and the illuminating info about Nars’ trajectory to being the biggest brand in make-up!

Xoxoxoxo,

myprettypinkponies.Blogspot.com

Sent from my Verizon Wireless BlackBerry
Uzo:

More on Francois Nars’ accomplice, Uzo:
Vogue article (June ’11)
Youtube clip (July ’11)
L.A. Times.com 
blog topic

Ten years in "corporate America"…

…and, I didn’t even get a lousy shirt!

Quote of the day…"We"


People
must believe in each other,
and
feel that it can be done
and
must be done;
in
that way they are enormously strong.
We
must keep up each other’s courage.
– Vincent
van Gogh

A Word From Our Sponsor (vid)…

Next Steps… (image)

Here’s the plan…

Develop your own plan.

Professional Presence Quiz: "What Would You Say?" (presentation)

in case you didn’t know…


our [evolving] mission

Being a girl in this city (L.A.) and “making it” as a professional while keeping up with fashion, friends, family, style, relationships, fitness, reading and everything else is nearly impossible.  We could always benefit from more support from our friends, families, network and other resources within our reach.  



It’s our mission to provide readers insight by posting about lessons we’ve learned and the lessons we continue to learn.



The content we post is for anyone who could use some food for thought especially the young woman “standing in brand new designer shoes” weary to step forward.  We hope you’ll find value in stories shared by others who were in similar shoes…as pretty as the pair on your very own feet.  Walking tall and pretty in high-heels after stumbling isn’t easy.  It helps to know others who have been there, recovered and what they do keep “balanced” in their tall heels.

Thanks for visiting and we encourage your feedback and comments on how you manage to balance your life during your trajectory to success.  Take a nice deep breath.  Then, put your best foot forward and make big strides!!!  

Yours,


Pretty Pink Ponies (“3P”)


Friendship "Break Ups": Thoughts by Lauren

By LAUREN STEWART


Recently, I had a friend ignore me for months because she “needed a break from friendships” because of her busy schedule and life. I completely understand how busy people can be and how friendships can take a beating because you simply don’t have time. But I personally think that you have to take the time to maintain friendships, no matter what. Friendship is one of the best things about life, so why take it for granted?


1. Schedule friend time like you schedule your appointments. Even at your busiest, when you see something in your schedule or calendar, you know it has to be done. Sometimes, you may not feel like hanging out with friends when there are a million things to be done, but once you’re there and having fun, you’ll realize how much you needed that time to recharge.


2. Don’t make blowing off someone a habit. Most people are pretty understanding if someone has to cancel a friend date because of work, illness, or an emergency. But if you make a habit of cancelling plans and blowing people off… unfortunately, you’re sure to be friendless in no time.


3. Take the time to do nice things for your friends, even if they live far away and you don’t see them often. Make sure you talk on the phone, Skype, send notes on Facebook, pay for lunch every once in a while… the little things that mean a lot in friendships. 

4. Be available. Often times, you really need your friends when something happens. Be available via phone, text, whatever and drop everything if a friend really needs you.


5. Reevaluate friendships and realize everyone makes mistakes. You will get busy and put off calling that friend and your friends may do the same with you. Small problems can always get worked out. But big problems, like when you feel like your friend doesn’t care about you anymore and they won’t talk about it, it may be time to let go of that friendship. Trust your gut.





About Lauren:
Lauren is a fellow Gen.Y blogger and a recent college graduate with a degree from Oakland University in Journalism. Lauren contributes her writing to blogs, social media, online magazines and sites and provides insight to the lives of Twenty Somethings (Gen Y). We appreciate Lauren’s maturity and contributions to 3P and follow her advice. 


You, too, can follow Lauren here:
http://askinyourface.com/
lauren@myprettypinkponies.com
@lrstewar

SHOEtiquette: Brainstorming with The Very Hip Etiquette Expert (aka VHEE), Jacqueline Whitmore (images)

@prettypinkpro What kind of heels would you recommend
for a hip etiquette expert?
(Asked by @etiquetteexpert Jacqueline Whitmore)

I was excited to receive this question asked by the guru of presentation herself, Ms. Jacqueline Whitmore (@etiquetteexpert).  I admire the Very Hip Etiquette Expert’s (“VHEE”) updated tips on how to be socially
graceful.  She epitomizes grace and
manners as well as entrepreneurial success.  The thought
of giving her my thoughts on what shoes to wear was one I couldn’t even dream of considering.  

I immediately went to the drawing board…


https://picasaweb.google.com/s/c/bin/slideshow.swf

 I.  First, I
considered what [little] I know about her style as well as her professionalresponsibilities as an etiquette expert.

I came up with the following list:
·  
She
sets an example.  She leads subtly
and politely.
·  
She
is busy and efficient, yet seems to do everything effortlessly and with grace.
·  
She
is appropriately dressed and polished for many social events occurring back to
back to back.
·  
She
is au courant, festive, attractive and engaging. At the same time however, she
is conscientious about drawing too much attention to herself.
·  
She
is always courteous and honors tradition but is never ever outdated.
·  
Compromising
her posture and gait with uncomfortable shoes is unacceptable.
·  
She
must continue making big strides with perfectly put-together ensembles.
II.  Then, I immediately came up with three brands
that align with @etiquetteexpert’s image in aesthetic, ladylike manners and
personality.
My top
choice was Kate Spade.
III.   Next I created three general categories:
a.
casual
b.
professional
c.
social
event





A.  Casual  
Suggestion: heels (or flats) in colors that add wit to understated classics.


I picture VHEE (Very Hip Etiquette Expert) wearing tailored cropped denim to add a modern and youthful element to an otherwise “Easter Sunday-ish” cardi- twinset.  The examples in images 1 and 2 have simple silhouettes and are understated enough to pull off a bright shoe without being visually shocking.
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B. Professional
 Suggestion: Rich colors, soft leather, and a hint of Old World craftsmanship that convey refined taste and gravitas. 




There are effective ways to convey success and professionalism without looking like a contestant on The Apprentice.  


Pinstripe suits and the basic Navy, Charcoal and Black were the VHEE’s “training wheels”.  At this point in her career, she requires a fashion identity that reflects her sophisticated style and expertise in presentation.  Images 3 and 4 are sophisticated and professional without looking like a corporate cartoon.  At this stage in her career, the VHEE can exude accountability and expertise without the aid of pinstripes and penny loafers.

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img 4






C. Social
Suggestion: Festive, fun and quality footwear that can dazzle the crowd without being the loudest one in the room.



Images 5 and 6 are perfect for holiday get-togethers with your social circle.  The silhouettes are ladylike and feminine without being outdated.  It’s beautiful to be sentimental. Balance your 1950’s references with pieces from our time period.  As I mentioned, Kate Spade does this with wit and taste.  Remember: too many of grandma’s antiquated heirloom pieces can be reminiscent of mothballs instead of nostalgia.

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Overall, our Etiquette Expert will always be the paragon of class and good taste.  She’s a delightful example of how to reach success with style….in fancy, high-heeled shoes!

Thank you for your support, Ms. Whitmore.  We wish you continued success!!!

Kindest regards,

3P

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To contact Jacqueline Whitmore, please visit: 
www.etiquetteexpert.com and  @etiquetteexpert.

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Pretty Professional Pumps! (slideshow)

Are you in the market for a pair of everyday office shoes?

For the smart, professional, chic woman who can’t live life without style, below are examples of office-appropriate footwear to inspire confidence as you march into the boardroom to present your brilliant ideas to colleagues.  (No one will know the secret to your spectacular presentation!) Go get ’em!

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Here are some other things to keep in mind when shopping for shoes:

Shoe anatomy
How to wear tall boots without looking (post-Halloween)
The rest of your wardrobe: The Fundamentals – “Closet Essentials” post

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