Friendship "Break Ups": Thoughts by Lauren

By LAUREN STEWART


Recently, I had a friend ignore me for months because she “needed a break from friendships” because of her busy schedule and life. I completely understand how busy people can be and how friendships can take a beating because you simply don’t have time. But I personally think that you have to take the time to maintain friendships, no matter what. Friendship is one of the best things about life, so why take it for granted?


1. Schedule friend time like you schedule your appointments. Even at your busiest, when you see something in your schedule or calendar, you know it has to be done. Sometimes, you may not feel like hanging out with friends when there are a million things to be done, but once you’re there and having fun, you’ll realize how much you needed that time to recharge.


2. Don’t make blowing off someone a habit. Most people are pretty understanding if someone has to cancel a friend date because of work, illness, or an emergency. But if you make a habit of cancelling plans and blowing people off… unfortunately, you’re sure to be friendless in no time.


3. Take the time to do nice things for your friends, even if they live far away and you don’t see them often. Make sure you talk on the phone, Skype, send notes on Facebook, pay for lunch every once in a while… the little things that mean a lot in friendships. 

4. Be available. Often times, you really need your friends when something happens. Be available via phone, text, whatever and drop everything if a friend really needs you.


5. Reevaluate friendships and realize everyone makes mistakes. You will get busy and put off calling that friend and your friends may do the same with you. Small problems can always get worked out. But big problems, like when you feel like your friend doesn’t care about you anymore and they won’t talk about it, it may be time to let go of that friendship. Trust your gut.





About Lauren:
Lauren is a fellow Gen.Y blogger and a recent college graduate with a degree from Oakland University in Journalism. Lauren contributes her writing to blogs, social media, online magazines and sites and provides insight to the lives of Twenty Somethings (Gen Y). We appreciate Lauren’s maturity and contributions to 3P and follow her advice. 


You, too, can follow Lauren here:
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8 thoughts on “Friendship "Break Ups": Thoughts by Lauren

  1. You can try introducing all your friends together to make it easier keeping in touch with the 'community' – I set up a group on Facebook that lets me do that. However, be warned that it can get a bit complicated should there be break-ups or arguments further down the line.

    As someone who's also a little bit selfish when it comes to the career vs relationships trade-off, I've realised that Lauren's points about the occasional message and not 'blowing-off' meet-ups go a long way professionally and personally.


    On an unrelated note, how on earth did I end up here when I started on LinkedIn, looking for social media in banking? 🙂

  2. Interesting post 🙂 I think also having a boyfriend really kills alot of “friend” time. You tend to blow off your friends and not go to any of their events. After that relationships ends – people come crawling back to their friends and they've already moved on because you didn't maintain it.

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