Boyfriends w/ D1 backgrounds = better relationships (teams)

“How do you manage people who are better than you?”

There Is An I In Team: HBR Presentation w/ Mark De Rond and Angela Herrin
Marvel comics, team, Xmen

Marvel comics, team, Xmen

I listened to a recent web presentation provided by the Harvard Business Review titled, “There Is An I In Team”.

I’m fascinated by collaboration among team members as a result of having had a couple of long term boyfriends who played Division I sports (Hot!).

It made very little sense to me in college that men can experience anger and frustration with a teammate or rival, duke it out, then grab a beer and hang out as friends the following day.

They seemed to be able to separate their roles on their teams from who they are off the team. But, how?!?!?

These abilities — a) getting over setbacks and moving forward, and b) separating one’s role on and off his/her team — are paramount to one’s chances of success in large organizations (i.e. Professor Xavier’s school for the gifted, or if you prefer reality, large world class corporations).

Marvel comics, team, Xmen

The HBR presentation I mentioned  is one of the better studies on how the best teams function, what makes teams effective, and how to manage teams to accomplish wins. De Rond takes his observations of university rowing teams and boat races to examine coordination between team members.

One insightful observation De Rond discovered in the results of team surveys is that high performers typically underestimate their own teammates**. And, as we all have experienced, this makes high performers or those who are highly intelligent dismissive of others.

If this is true, what can we do to exploit the value high performers can provide while mitigating the risks these high performers’ behavioral tendencies often cause?

Surprisingly, the answer isn’t found by forcing all team members to get along. It turns out that expressing emotional experiences and venting to teammates create winning performance***.

While most of us define team harmony as an absence of competitiveness between members, this is only half of the story. Competition (“lack of harmony”) cannot truly be forced out of individuals because it is innate. If suppressed, competition resurfaces in more destructive forms under the radar of team leaders and creates more dysfunction than if they were acknowledged, accepted and resolved in a psychologically safe and moderated space.

My favorite take away from this presentation is this: 

Harmony cannot be forced in teams. Harmony is created naturally when teams experience wins and achieve great things through collaboration with one another.

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Metropolis II (Installation by Chris Burden @LACMA)

Metropolis II (Installation by Chris Burden @LACMA).

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Titles & all of that ” ” … (introspection)

I’m often cut off mid-sentence and asked, “But..what do you wanna do?”.

Fair enough question.

(SPOILER: There are no images in this post)

I suppose operating from the gut can make sense to one’s self but not necessarily to others.

It isn’t as if I responsibly mapped out my professional trajectory like I was taught to do…Instead, I followed my heart (whatever that means) and learned important lessons along the way. But, that doesn’t help clarify things, does it?

Unfortunately, passion can lack the efficient jargon demanded by those who wish to make a quick assessment of another’s perceived added value.

How silly was I to add “passion” to the bulletpoints on my resume? The entire Dalek population would explode attempting to grasp this concept.

Passion is tough to quantify. Just ask any successful entrepreneur.

That said, using a wordcloud tool has failed to capture the essence of the value I can add to any organization – instinct, experience, heart, loyalty, intuition, perserverance, empathy, connection, et al…These terms are not trending on LinkedIn — Google alerts would’ve informed me, and I just checked.

So, since my unorthodox list of accomplishments are invisible to search engines (and, incomprehensible to Daleks), I decided to explicity define “success” for myself as a courtesy to my new friends and acquaintances.

Here is what my point B looks like:

*You’re having your A.M. coffee while reading about the biggest networking event of the year on a page in the WSJ.

(Blurb for one of many well-known international events)

The text reads:

Notable Speakers include:

Abby Joseph Cohen one of the most respected figures in investing circles and is the chief US investment strategist for Goldman Sachs Group, Inc.

Anna Wintour, Editor-in-Chief, Vogue

Carrie Fisher, Actress best known as Princess Leia

Meg Gomez, Makes handmade stationery & sells them on Etsy

Sarah Blakely, CEO & Founder, Spanx

Genevieve Bos, Founding Publisher, Pink Magazine

Sheila Kahanek, former Accountant, Enron.

*end scene

I hope that helped clarify some things for you.

Have a great weekend!!!

Best,

Meg

*end scene

 ;P
(SPOILER: To be continued…)

Add some spring to your step … in fancy shoes! (img) #3PCstyle

Great question. (via @RonaldSkelton) #Responsible #Consumerism

Look at the last thing you bought, what problem did it solve, what benefit did you buy?

— Ronald Skelton (@ronaldskelton) May 6, 2012

How much thought do we put into where we spend our time, energy and money? Do you consider how the product in your shopping basket got to your hand? How was it manufactured? Whose idea was it to create this? What was intended when the decision to produce the product was made?

Let us know — do you think it matters???

We encourage you to pause and think about what message you’re helping create each time you make a purchase or decision. What you buy makes a bigger statement than you think — it supports ideas, practices and institutions. Be smart. Choose wisely.

Thanks for stopping by.

All the best,

3P

 

The Art of Being Well-dressed: Superfluous or Essential? Both.

Introduction

Some consider the art of dressing, fashion and styling as a superfluous use of one’s time and energy. They’re right. Fashion can be overthought and when combined with the forces of retail marketing, fashion can result in  addiction to consumption.

The Hollywood cliché of the teenage girl’s obsession with her image, shopping with her friends and becoming an over-accessorized one dimensional version of her true potential stems from a very real power fashion magazines, shows and other media have on our values. It can be a limiting existence to live life pursuing an impossible opportunity to become another Kardashian sister.

However, if taken seriously without being obsessively vain, the art of dressing becomes a tool for the sophisticated individual. Fashion – or, in the case of our topic, dressing – is akin to a product’s packaging in that it serves several important roles.

We liken the importance of dressing to the importance of a container; both are extensions of the product itself and both help create a product’s appeal, ensure its preservation, and operates as a means of communication between the brand and its target market.

 

Packaging 101

If you open most books about packaging, you’ll learn that an effective package provides a product with the following:

  1. Containment
  2. Protection
  3. Convenience
  4. Information
  5. Marketing

As a professional possessing valuable skills and talent to offer the world you, too, are a product that needs to be packaged appropriately to appeal to the audience you aim to reach.

Think about it. If a product’s packaging didn’t accurately reflect its contents, how would the buyer react upon discovering that the delicious marshmallows he brought home from the store were instead a package of raw tofu???

Being inappropriately ‘packaged’ will result in disappointments.

 

Proper Packaging: clothing that serves its purpose

So, how exactly do we package ourselves? Glad you asked.

Dressing up or down (or not at all) can be fun. However, when functioning in society, there are responsibilities we must honor before fulfilling our desire to amuse ourselves and do whatever we’d like without regard for rules.

Like a product’s container, our clothing must serve its primary functions before it acts as an extension of our individuality and brand’s message. Typography is useless on a box that doesn’t properly secure the eggs on its way to your kitchen from the grocery store.

In other words your clothes have responsibilites. Your clothing need to fulfill their responsibilities before they can scream, “Louis Vuitton!”.

As a courtesy, we’ve developed a guideline in the form of a checklist to make sure your outfit is at the very least serving its primary purpose.

Checklist: 

1. Containment – Does it sufficiently contain and cover its contents?

2. Protection – Is your outfit appropriate for the environment, weather, social context you’ll be wearing it to? (i.e. flip flops outdoors during a snowstorm, etc…)

3. Convenience – Does your clothing allow you to move comfortably and with ease? Does it fit you properly? Will you have difficulty performing at your optimum level in these clothes?

4. Information – What message does your clothing communicate to society as a whole?

5. Marketing – Are you wearing any symbols or styles that will connect with the specific group you wish to appeal to? Will your market be attracted to you given how you are presented?

(To be continued…)

Is anyone listening? (Video)

Why have we become afraid of conversation…intimacy…relationships???

Poignant and sad perspective re: how we are being shaped by technology by psychologist, Sherry Turkle.

 

Who are your heroes? (img)

We asked our readers to identify and share images of ‘heroes’ on our board, and the results were diverse..
Some shared images of fictional characters, while others posted images of pets.
In the end, we can certainly see how the shared images can serve as visual inspiration.

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Can I Be Fully Me?: Stages of Relational Development

“…it takes thirty years to mature emotionally,…”

via Can I Be Fully Me?: Stages of Relational Development.

Confidently “un-pretty”. (images)

Audrey Hepburn
When I worked full time in corporate America, I was always polished and groomed at the office. I worked in an environment where presentation and details made a huge impact on the perception of one’s sense of professionalism.

That said, it was always so refreshing to become “un-pretty” during weekends.

What does it mean to be “un-pretty”? First, let’s take a look at what “pretty” means:

I define ‘pretty’ as being polite, pleasant and polished.  “Pretty” is the very essence of being a lady — coiffed hair, a manicure, a poise presentation, warm, approachable and socially graceful. (Think of a house party’s hostess – friendly and sociable). Someone “pretty” offers you coffee and cookies when you visit their homes. The “pretty” girl tells you how great you look (to simplify the concept); she is concerned about whether or not you’re comfortable and considers what your preferences are.

When I use the term “un-pretty”, I’m not implying that I made an effort to look unattractive (although, a lot of times, this was the case). What I mean is, my style of presentation was less ladylike and lacked the polish and niceties one would expect from a pageant-trained woman.

How does one achieve a “pretty” look?

Feminine make up highlighting the shape of one’s eyes + full lips + groomed brows and hairstyle + polished ready-to-face-the-camera style + tailored and put-togehter – any piece of hair out of place

I love the “un-pretty” side of my closet as much as the polished and tailored pieces I own. It’s necessary, at times, to wear wrinkled shirts, athletic shoes, cotton tees and unruly hair. I say this because I think it’s an advantage to be comfortable even without having to project the socially-constructed version of “girl”. You can be attractive in various ways — wearing pearls and a tiara or sneakers and a baseball cap.

To me, an un-pretty style can convey the gritty sexiness of Marlon Brando’s Stanley Kowalski.

Un-pretty means dressing with style without having to make a lot of effort — in So Cal this laid-back style is one that many non- L.A. natives try very hard to emulate. It’s the confidence in one’s self without having to look like a doll who took two hours to apply make up.

It’s an image that actors and models (who spend their working days in full make-up) naturally have on their days off. A look that conveys the understanding that if they wanted to, they could very well shave their scruff and be as pretty as they come. The “unpretty” girl doesn’t necessarily say ‘please’ or ‘thank you’ in a bubbly voice. She may give you a smirk or a nod of acknowledgement if she’s pleased with you.

Simplified, the “unpretty” girl asks you for a smoke without taking into consideration whether or not you approve of her smoking. She is not as self-conscious as her socially-graceful “pretty” girl counterpart.

How does one achieve this un-pretty too-cool-to-care style?

“undone hair” + cotton tee + element of relaxed or athletic gear – bubbly persona – string of pearls – “matchy-matchy” accessories + grit + attitude…

It’s an image that says, “I’ve got better things to do than try and please everyone I encounter on the street. I’m more than just eye-candy and amusement — I’ve got more important roles to play.” 
I’m sure Sienna Miller (above) is a very pleasant and classy lady. However, I can guarantee that there are probably times when she could care less about what flavor cupcake would make your day. On those days, if you stopped her in the street to chat with her about your exciting new puppy and tell her that it would be really cool to have a picture of you two together, she would somehow let you know that there are other priorities in her day that are a bit more important than hearing your about your puppy’s outfit and how much you’d love to update your Facebook profile picture.
Do you have an “un-pretty” side? How do you celebrate it?
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“Losing friends” to adulthood…

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I AM AN EMOTIONAL CREATURE (E. Ensler)

I love being a girl.

I can feel what you’re feeling as you’re feeling inside the feeling before

I am an emotional creature.

Things do not come to me as intellectual theories or hard-pressed ideas. They
post through my organs and legs and burn up my ears.

Oh, I know when your girlfriend’s really pissed off, even though she appears to
give you what you want.

I know when the storm is coming. I can feel the invisible stirrings in the air

I can tell that he won’t call back. It’s a vibe I share

I am an emotional creature

I love that I do not take things lightly.

Everything is intense to me:
The way I walk in the streets. The way my Mama wakes me up. The way it’s
unbearable when I lose. The way I hear bad news.

I am an emotional creature

I am connected to everything and everyone. I was born like that. Don’t you say
it’s all negative, that it’s only a teenage thing or it’s only because I’m a
girl.

These feelings make me better. They make me present. They make me ready.
They make me strong.

I am an emotional creature.

There is a particular way of knowing. It’s like the older women
somehow forgot.
I rejoice that it’s still in my body.

Oh, I know when the coconuts are about to fall. I know we have pushed the Earth
too far. I know my father isn’t coming back and that no one’s prepared for the
fire.

I know that lipstick means more than show and boys are super
insecure and so-called terrorists are made, not born

I know that one kiss could take away all my decision making ability. And you
know what? Sometimes it should.

This is not extreme. It’s a girl thing. What we would all be if the big
door inside us flew open.

Don’t tell me not to cry, to calm me down, not to be so extreme, to be
reasonable.

I am an emotional creature.

It’s how the Earth got made, how the wind continues to pollinate.

You don’t tell the Atlantic Ocean how to behave.

I am an emotional creature.

Why would you shut me down and turn me off? I am your remaining memory. I can
take you back. Nothing has been diluted, nothing’s leaked out.

I love, hear me, I love that I can feel the feelings inside you.

Even if they stop my life.

Even if they break my heart. Even if they take me off track.

They make me responsible.

I am an emotional, I am an emotional, unconditional, devotional creature.

And, I love, hear me,I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE, being a girl

 by E. Ensler…




This piece touched me when I first saw her recite it on TED. How do you like it?

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our [evolving] mission

Being a girl in this city (L.A.) and “making it” as a professional while keeping up with fashion, friends, family, style, relationships, fitness, reading and everything else is nearly impossible.  We could always benefit from more support from our friends, families, network and other resources within our reach.  



It’s our mission to provide readers insight by posting about lessons we’ve learned and the lessons we continue to learn.



The content we post is for anyone who could use some food for thought especially the young woman “standing in brand new designer shoes” weary to step forward.  We hope you’ll find value in stories shared by others who were in similar shoes…as pretty as the pair on your very own feet.  Walking tall and pretty in high-heels after stumbling isn’t easy.  It helps to know others who have been there, recovered and what they do keep “balanced” in their tall heels.

Thanks for visiting and we encourage your feedback and comments on how you manage to balance your life during your trajectory to success.  Take a nice deep breath.  Then, put your best foot forward and make big strides!!!  

Yours,


Pretty Pink Ponies (“3P”)


Friendship "Break Ups": Thoughts by Lauren

By LAUREN STEWART


Recently, I had a friend ignore me for months because she “needed a break from friendships” because of her busy schedule and life. I completely understand how busy people can be and how friendships can take a beating because you simply don’t have time. But I personally think that you have to take the time to maintain friendships, no matter what. Friendship is one of the best things about life, so why take it for granted?


1. Schedule friend time like you schedule your appointments. Even at your busiest, when you see something in your schedule or calendar, you know it has to be done. Sometimes, you may not feel like hanging out with friends when there are a million things to be done, but once you’re there and having fun, you’ll realize how much you needed that time to recharge.


2. Don’t make blowing off someone a habit. Most people are pretty understanding if someone has to cancel a friend date because of work, illness, or an emergency. But if you make a habit of cancelling plans and blowing people off… unfortunately, you’re sure to be friendless in no time.


3. Take the time to do nice things for your friends, even if they live far away and you don’t see them often. Make sure you talk on the phone, Skype, send notes on Facebook, pay for lunch every once in a while… the little things that mean a lot in friendships. 

4. Be available. Often times, you really need your friends when something happens. Be available via phone, text, whatever and drop everything if a friend really needs you.


5. Reevaluate friendships and realize everyone makes mistakes. You will get busy and put off calling that friend and your friends may do the same with you. Small problems can always get worked out. But big problems, like when you feel like your friend doesn’t care about you anymore and they won’t talk about it, it may be time to let go of that friendship. Trust your gut.





About Lauren:
Lauren is a fellow Gen.Y blogger and a recent college graduate with a degree from Oakland University in Journalism. Lauren contributes her writing to blogs, social media, online magazines and sites and provides insight to the lives of Twenty Somethings (Gen Y). We appreciate Lauren’s maturity and contributions to 3P and follow her advice. 


You, too, can follow Lauren here:
http://askinyourface.com/
lauren@myprettypinkponies.com
@lrstewar

SHOEtiquette: Brainstorming with The Very Hip Etiquette Expert (aka VHEE), Jacqueline Whitmore (images)

@prettypinkpro What kind of heels would you recommend
for a hip etiquette expert?
(Asked by @etiquetteexpert Jacqueline Whitmore)

I was excited to receive this question asked by the guru of presentation herself, Ms. Jacqueline Whitmore (@etiquetteexpert).  I admire the Very Hip Etiquette Expert’s (“VHEE”) updated tips on how to be socially
graceful.  She epitomizes grace and
manners as well as entrepreneurial success.  The thought
of giving her my thoughts on what shoes to wear was one I couldn’t even dream of considering.  

I immediately went to the drawing board…


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 I.  First, I
considered what [little] I know about her style as well as her professionalresponsibilities as an etiquette expert.

I came up with the following list:
·  
She
sets an example.  She leads subtly
and politely.
·  
She
is busy and efficient, yet seems to do everything effortlessly and with grace.
·  
She
is appropriately dressed and polished for many social events occurring back to
back to back.
·  
She
is au courant, festive, attractive and engaging. At the same time however, she
is conscientious about drawing too much attention to herself.
·  
She
is always courteous and honors tradition but is never ever outdated.
·  
Compromising
her posture and gait with uncomfortable shoes is unacceptable.
·  
She
must continue making big strides with perfectly put-together ensembles.
II.  Then, I immediately came up with three brands
that align with @etiquetteexpert’s image in aesthetic, ladylike manners and
personality.
My top
choice was Kate Spade.
III.   Next I created three general categories:
a.
casual
b.
professional
c.
social
event





A.  Casual  
Suggestion: heels (or flats) in colors that add wit to understated classics.


I picture VHEE (Very Hip Etiquette Expert) wearing tailored cropped denim to add a modern and youthful element to an otherwise “Easter Sunday-ish” cardi- twinset.  The examples in images 1 and 2 have simple silhouettes and are understated enough to pull off a bright shoe without being visually shocking.
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B. Professional
 Suggestion: Rich colors, soft leather, and a hint of Old World craftsmanship that convey refined taste and gravitas. 




There are effective ways to convey success and professionalism without looking like a contestant on The Apprentice.  


Pinstripe suits and the basic Navy, Charcoal and Black were the VHEE’s “training wheels”.  At this point in her career, she requires a fashion identity that reflects her sophisticated style and expertise in presentation.  Images 3 and 4 are sophisticated and professional without looking like a corporate cartoon.  At this stage in her career, the VHEE can exude accountability and expertise without the aid of pinstripes and penny loafers.

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C. Social
Suggestion: Festive, fun and quality footwear that can dazzle the crowd without being the loudest one in the room.



Images 5 and 6 are perfect for holiday get-togethers with your social circle.  The silhouettes are ladylike and feminine without being outdated.  It’s beautiful to be sentimental. Balance your 1950’s references with pieces from our time period.  As I mentioned, Kate Spade does this with wit and taste.  Remember: too many of grandma’s antiquated heirloom pieces can be reminiscent of mothballs instead of nostalgia.

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Overall, our Etiquette Expert will always be the paragon of class and good taste.  She’s a delightful example of how to reach success with style….in fancy, high-heeled shoes!

Thank you for your support, Ms. Whitmore.  We wish you continued success!!!

Kindest regards,

3P

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To contact Jacqueline Whitmore, please visit: 
www.etiquetteexpert.com and  @etiquetteexpert.

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Hobbies that keep you relevant (images)


Embrace the robocalypse!
While you may not associate the activities below with traditional business-folk-type of activities (read:  Jack Welch doesn’t “do” web design), there are important correlations between the skills in employees employers find valuable and these not-so-typical hobbies…



1.Web Design: What competitive company doesn’t have or want an amazing website?  Online sites are the medium of communication of the future  yesterday. 
2.Blogging and Journaling: Aside from the obvious health benefits of writing in a journal (stress reducer), writing and blogging only helps improve your writing and thinking.  If you recognize the importance  of being an effective communicator and having “voice flexibility” (business format, web format, stage format, et cetera…), you would certainly find writing exercises one way to help with this…how do I know?  From my own improvement:  I already write better now than I did at 4:45am today.
3.Reading:  Specifically, our blog… (Do I need to justify this?)


essie@myprettypinkponies.com





I Enjoy Being A Girl (Youtube clip)



(Great “special effects” towards the end…watch for it in the mirror scene.  It’s like Avatar, but more realistic)

Put your best foot forward…make big strides!


our [evolving] mission

Being a girl in this city (L.A.) and “making it” as a professional while keeping up with fashion, friends, family, style, relationships, fitness, reading and everything else is nearly impossible.  We could always benefit from more support from our friends, families, network and other resources within our reach.  


It’s our mission to provide readers insight by posting about lessons we’ve learned and the lessons we continue to learn.


The content we post is for anyone who could use some food for thought especially the young woman “standing in brand new designer shoes” weary to step forward.  We hope you’ll find value in stories shared by others who were in similar shoes…as pretty as the pair on your very own feet.  Walking tall and pretty in high-heels after stumbling isn’t easy.  It helps to know others who have been there, recovered and what they do keep “balanced” in their tall heels.

Thanks for visiting and we encourage your feedback and comments on how you manage to balance your life during your trajectory to success.  Take a nice deep breath.  Then, put your best foot forward and make big strides!!!  

Yours,


Pretty Pink Ponies (“3P”)




Wisdom learned from the birthday girl! (Nancy Hovde)

Learn to Live, Age Joyfully
Happiness is good for your health—so how do you keep a positive self image even as you age?


AAbout this post: Nancy Hovde is a life coach, author and blogger at UberEmpowermentBlog.com.  She lives in Redondo Beach and I’ve known her for almost ten years.  I admire her life-juggling abilities – her discipline, work ethic, positive attitude and resilience.  Happy birthday, Nancy.




I was searching for the perfect birthday card for my 93-year-old grandma at Card De A in Redondo Beach, and it reminded me of what’s become an annual tradition. Each year I ask her what words of wisdom she acquired from the year before. This year, the focus was on maintaining her level of happiness through humor. She makes fun of her memory lapses.
Her inner strength takes my breath away, especially when I notice her small, frail frame. I’m grateful that my loving and supportive parents surround her. Optimism, laughter, being around supportive family members and positive emotions can counteract many harmful effects at any age, especially in our sixties, seventies, eighties and beyond.

We don’t need to wait until we reach a certain age to acquire wisdom and humor; even as we age, we can begin to practice what can help us develop an optimistic outlook on life. Aside from eating right and exercising, it is awareness and knowledge of life experiences, changes in our expectations of life and remembering our sense of humor that contributes to aging gracefully and joyfully.
Many of us would speculate that positive emotions may directly affect health by altering the chemical balance of the body. We can start today, and as we age, we can learn to live more in the moment, appreciate life and experience a sense of satisfaction and well being. Our ability to maintain happiness and peace of mind depends on our attitude.


Here are some tips you can begin using today to ensure a positive attitude about life and aging:


Listen carefully to yourself. 
If you have put yourself down for as long as you can remember—perhaps even since childhood—a lifetime of negative subliminal messages can take their toll by turning you into a pessimist. I encourage you to try to spend one to three days writing down the phrases you use in your “self talk.” Chances are you will find that you repeat several phrases over and over again that reinforce your negative image of yourself. Once you are aware of these phrases, you can change them.
If an issue is not resolved, it will continue to fester—you will relive the negative emotions tied to that issue over and over again. 

Write about what you feel in your journal for about 15 minutes a day for three days. 
Once you begin to write, don’t stop until the time is up. This exercise will help you organize your thoughts and get negative ones out of your system. Notice how much better you feel about yourself at the end of three days.

Seek out new opportunities. 
Discover new challenges each month. You can feel optimistic when you always have a goal to achieve that’s just over the horizon. When you begin to get close to reaching that goal, set a new one. This allows you to keep moving consistently ahead.
Keep fun in your life by eliminating monotony, a sure killer of optimism. Try to do one new thing every week or month. Try a new coffee shop or restaurant, visit a museum, try a new activity or sport, or go to a book signing, lecture or community event. A friend and I enjoyed dinner at Turquoise in Redondo Beach. This was her first time eating there. It was fun to see her enthusiasm and delight when she discovered a new Turquoise in Redondo Beach. This was her first time eating there. It was fun to see her enthusiasm and delight when she discovered a new favorite restaurant.

Look for a new wonder of nature each day. 
I marvel each time I am on Portuguese Bend Trail and see the views of Palos Verdes. It’s a tranquil escape.

Learn to laugh at yourself. 
Yes, sad events and situations will come up in life, so allow yourself to experience grief—just don’t let it control you. Lend a hand to someone worse off than yourself by volunteering at a hospital or visiting a shelter. Try meditating for five minutes each day. During that time, 

Make a mental list of at least three great things that happened to you that day.
Simply recalling one episode of anger can depress the immune system; however, remembering a time when you compassionate or caring can enhance your immune system. So laugh a lot! You’ll heal your body and your mind—and feel joyful at any age.

Food for thought…

…in other words, “have some perspective!”.  There are much more important things in life than your job.  Take care of those priorities, too.

Are you smokin’??

Lifescript.com’s tips to help you stop smoking : < click to access article

RESOURCES:
National Cancer Institute
http://smokefree.gov/
Tobacco Information and Prevention Source (TIPS)
Centers for Disease Control and Prevention
http://www.cdc.gov/tobacco/index.htm
United States Department of Health and Human Services
1-800 Quit-Now
http://1800quitnow.cancer.gov/

People Profile: Faiza Seth (images)

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Courtesy of Faiza Seth
Faiza Seth in a pair of Christian Louboutins.
Faiza Seth is not your usual CEO.  She has flowing black hair, 40+ pairs of Louboutins and she frequently shares beauty secrets in fashion magazines.

But the Hyderabad-born executive has more to her than meets the eye: After a stint at Lehman Brothers in Hong Kong and obtaining an MBA from Stanford University, Ms. Seth, 33, moved to London where she set up her own business, the architecture and luxury interior design firm Casa Forma in 2007.
Ms. Seth spoke to India Real Time about the Indian market for high-end interior design, shared tips for young female entrepreneurs and explained how beauty and business don’t always go well together.  Edited excerpts.
IRT: What made you decide to expand in India?
Ms. Seth: I am Indian so I can understand the country culturally, it is easier for me to work here than in the rest of the BRICs. My family is based in Delhi so I have a network to start off with that I don’t have in Brazil, Russia or China. Also I find people in India have been exposed to global design and trends. Here there is a demand for an international design aesthetic which offers high quality, bespoke design, luxury, and value.
IRT: How does India’s luxury market compares to London’s?
Ms. Seth: In London there is a high demand for property. There, I get requests like crazy for second homes from clients in Russia, China, the Middle East and India. The Indian market is a little bit more price sensitive. At the same time it’s hard to differentiate between locations because people who want that service want the highest quality no matter where they are.
IRT: How are you adapting your design concept to the Indian market?
Ms. Seth: The broader concept is a global design aesthetic. But we have to adapt our designs to make them more doable in India: We have to take into consideration environmental factors like weather and dust. For instance, you can’t use light colors in Delhi because they will be very hard to maintain with the dust and pollution. We pick darker shades.
IRT: What is the design concept behind the New Delhi showhouse?
Ms. Seth: It’s basically modern colonial with some Art Deco and contemporary influences. This includes high ceilings, dark woods like mahogany, marbles and antique doors.
IRT: What tips do you have for young female entrepreneurs in India?
Ms. Seth: Young women need to follow their passion and do what they enjoy … this ensures the greatest probability of success. It is critical that young women entrepreneurs get outside work experience in a large professional set up to bring in discipline, work ethic. Finally women entrepreneurs should start small with low costs and build their businesses up step by step.
IRT: What are the main challenges of doing business in India?
Ms. Seth: Doing business successfully in India can be challenging because of the lack of infrastructure and inertia in the approval processes. Therefore it is crucial to have a strong compliance person who can help manage the environment and ensures adherence to local laws.
IRT: You never leave your house without…?
Ms. Seth: My Blackberry, which is my lifeline to Casa Forma. It’s the first thing I see in the morning and the last thing I see before I sleep.
IRT: Can beauty be a disadvantage in a business environment?
Ms. Seth: Beauty can sometimes be a disadvantage in business because people tend to think beauty and intelligence are often mutually exclusive. However, good educational and professional qualifications can often mitigate this stereotype.



(source:  online.wsj.com Copyright 2008 Dow Jones & Company, Inc. All Rights Reserved)

"Fallen Princesses" by Dina Goldstein

Amazing work by Dina Goldstein, “Fallen Princesses” examines the untold story of princesses lives after the happily ever-after.

These works place Fairy Tale characters in modern day scenarios. In all of the images the Princess is placed in an environment that articulates her conflict. The ‘…happily ever after’ is replaced with a realistic outcome and addresses current issues… Disney’s perfect Princesses [are] juxtaposed with real issues that were affecting women around me, such as illness, addiction and self-image issues.

Famous photographer, Annie Leibovitz, is also credited for her beautiful work photographing celebrities as Disney Princesses.  Let’s examine the different messages their images convey:

Snow White courtesy of Dina Goldstein (Fallen Princesses)

by Annie Leibovitz (Rachel Weisz)

Ariel by Dina Goldstein (Fallen Princesses)

by Annie Leibovitz 

Cinderella by Dina Goldstein (Fallen Princesses)

What an impactful way to reveal the “other side” of the sought-after-fairy-tale-lives we imagined as girls.   I am a girly-girl, however, it’s important to have a reality check once-in-a-while.

Dina Goldstein’s photographs serve just that purpose – and well.  What a force to counteract the ever-so-influential princess cartoons children are exposed to.

Belle by Dina Goldstein (Fallen Princesses)
by Annie Leibovitz (Penelope Cruz as Belle)

Pocahontas by Dina Goldstein (Fallen Princesses)

by Annie Leibovitz (Jessica Biel as Pocahontas)
The Disney Princesses

Do well in school, young ladies!!!

3P

The Bias against "Creativity" (Forbes)

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If the major deterrent to accepting “creative thinking” in the workplace is low tolerance for uncertainty, I would surmise that highly-regulated and high-risk industries have don’t evolve as quickly as others due to lack of innovation (“creativity”). Do you have any thoughts about the relationship between  regulation and innovation? Thank you for posting this article. Much appreciated. 3P


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it starts in my toes…

“… makes me crinkle my nose…” (this is how I describe feeling amazing)
I feel absolutely amazing.  Why?  I’ve accomplished the objectives I set for myself for the week (and scheduled smaller tasks throughout the next few days), I had a delicious and healthy meal, read a couple chapters of a good book, reconnected with supportive and genuine friends, submitted my resume, attended to other responsibilities while getting an opportunity to “flex” some valuable attributes in myself that I haven’t been able to in some time…
Days that make me “crinkle my nose” are top priority, and I make sure to schedule them strategically following tough weeks.  
Seriously. 
I reserved a portion of today for less demanding chores like drycleaning, laundry, household chores, returning calls to friends, etc…  I do have stressful obligations on my plate, however, for the next three hours, I choose to “responsibly ignore” them as a proactive and conscious form of self-preservation.  The objective is to shut down stress by being around inspiring people..or intellectually stimulating ideas…or existing in an environment filled with “things I love” (i.e. the outdoors, the stationery store, indoors watching movies with gorgeous imagery, museums, gardens, etc…) to bring me back to center.  When time’s up, I’m back to focused work, appointments, stress, bills, etc…
Do you set aside time to do the things you enjoy and be around friends (not associated with your job and/or goal to “network”) who are supportive and trustworthy?  
Existing in a “non-threatening” space where you can have your guard down and be as carefree as a child (read:  without being judged) is healthy and promotes “good” behavior in adults.  A recent research by Sreedhari Desai and Francesca Gino published by the Harvard Business Review found that an environment reminiscent of childhood encouraged adults to behave more ethically (link to article:  Adults Behave Better When Teddy Bears are in the Room). 

Have a lovely week.

3P


related articles:
“Scheduling Distraction-Free time” by Connectedlife.com
10 ways to make more time for yourself” by chronicbabe.com
“Nice girl = Bad Networker” (Thanks to Connected Life)

Fortune Cookie says…(image)

Today’s fortune cookie says…



Had I known about this “enjoyable vacation”, I would not have kept it “awaiting” me.




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irritated??? (images)

Stressed?
Frustrated because some people just don’t “get it”?  Put your boxing gloves down.  No need to break a nail over some things.

We get it.  When we’re busy and under a lot of stress, we get into tons of petty fights with others.  Since this isn’t productive and only adds further stress in our lives, we decided we’d figure out how to prevent from turning mild situations into ‘pi$$ing contest$’ with those we interact with.  Even if you’re a pissing-contest-champion, winning pointless arguments rarely ever helps anyone move closer to their long-term goals.

VOGUE (TURKEY), June 2011

One way to prevent unnecessary stress is to improve communication.

For instance, before getting upset with others, see if you can communicate what you need effectively and in a manner the other person can understand clearly.

An article published by the Mayo Clinic (below) observes behaviors leading to stress and frustration in relationships.  The article suggests preventing conflict by communicating your needs assertively without making the other person feel attacked.

As it turns out, people don’t usually care to hear what an insulting person has to say and will dismiss it – even if it is a good point.

Synopsis:  Communicate what you want and need without making others feel like they’ve done something wrong.

Rather than:
I hate the way you speak 100 decibels louder than necessary when you’re on the phone…It’s so annoying!


Another option:
Would you mind making your call in the other room for 30 minutes?  I’d like to finish reading/watching TV/doing sit ups and I find it hard to focus when I hear your exciting conversation with [such-and-such].
(note:  do not say this in a sarcastic and mean-spirited tone)  

Ready to learn more about how to have healthy dialogue with peers, colleagues, friends, family and all human kind?  Good for you!



let us know how it worked out…

Sincerely,
3P staff

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