Boyfriends w/ D1 backgrounds = better relationships (teams)

“How do you manage people who are better than you?”

There Is An I In Team: HBR Presentation w/ Mark De Rond and Angela Herrin
Marvel comics, team, Xmen

Marvel comics, team, Xmen

I listened to a recent web presentation provided by the Harvard Business Review titled, “There Is An I In Team”.

I’m fascinated by collaboration among team members as a result of having had a couple of long term boyfriends who played Division I sports (Hot!).

It made very little sense to me in college that men can experience anger and frustration with a teammate or rival, duke it out, then grab a beer and hang out as friends the following day.

They seemed to be able to separate their roles on their teams from who they are off the team. But, how?!?!?

These abilities — a) getting over setbacks and moving forward, and b) separating one’s role on and off his/her team — are paramount to one’s chances of success in large organizations (i.e. Professor Xavier’s school for the gifted, or if you prefer reality, large world class corporations).

Marvel comics, team, Xmen

The HBR presentation I mentioned  is one of the better studies on how the best teams function, what makes teams effective, and how to manage teams to accomplish wins. De Rond takes his observations of university rowing teams and boat races to examine coordination between team members.

One insightful observation De Rond discovered in the results of team surveys is that high performers typically underestimate their own teammates**. And, as we all have experienced, this makes high performers or those who are highly intelligent dismissive of others.

If this is true, what can we do to exploit the value high performers can provide while mitigating the risks these high performers’ behavioral tendencies often cause?

Surprisingly, the answer isn’t found by forcing all team members to get along. It turns out that expressing emotional experiences and venting to teammates create winning performance***.

While most of us define team harmony as an absence of competitiveness between members, this is only half of the story. Competition (“lack of harmony”) cannot truly be forced out of individuals because it is innate. If suppressed, competition resurfaces in more destructive forms under the radar of team leaders and creates more dysfunction than if they were acknowledged, accepted and resolved in a psychologically safe and moderated space.

My favorite take away from this presentation is this: 

Harmony cannot be forced in teams. Harmony is created naturally when teams experience wins and achieve great things through collaboration with one another.

Continue reading

Fill in the blank: ________________ make adults insecure. (Vote & share!) Thank you.

Thank you for taking time to stop by our site to share your thoughts.

Do come back to see which answer got the most votes.

Have a beautiful day!!!

(P.S. Cut yourself some slack…we’re all probably much more amazing than we give ourselves credit for!)

Multitasking: How to develop your core muscle group while reading (video)

Our buddy, Adam, explains what our “core” does, why it matters, then demonstrates my favorite exercise to do while Tweeting (and re-tweeting)!

CLIFF’S NOTES: How & What to Eat to be a Lean (and, Pretty!) Machine!

 <!–
/* Font Definitions */
@font-face
{font-family:"Times New Roman";
panose-1:0 2 2 6 3 5 4 5 2 3;
mso-font-charset:0;
mso-generic-font-family:auto;
mso-font-pitch:variable;
mso-font-signature:50331648 0 0 0 1 0;}
@font-face
{font-family:Century;
panose-1:0 2 4 6 4 5 5 5 2 3;
mso-font-charset:0;
mso-generic-font-family:auto;
mso-font-pitch:variable;
mso-font-signature:50331648 0 0 0 1 0;}
@font-face
{font-family:"American Typewriter";
panose-1:0 2 9 6 4 2 0 4 2 3;
mso-font-charset:0;
mso-generic-font-family:auto;
mso-font-pitch:variable;
mso-font-signature:50331648 0 0 0 1 0;}
@font-face
{font-family:"Century Gothic";
panose-1:0 2 11 5 2 2 2 2 2 2;
mso-font-charset:0;
mso-generic-font-family:auto;
mso-font-pitch:variable;
mso-font-signature:50331648 0 0 0 1 0;}
/* Style Definitions */
p.MsoNormal, li.MsoNormal, div.MsoNormal
{mso-style-parent:"";
margin:0in;
margin-bottom:.0001pt;
mso-pagination:widow-orphan;
font-size:12.0pt;
font-family:Century;
mso-text-raise:1.0pt;
letter-spacing:1.6pt;}
table.MsoNormalTable
{mso-style-parent:"";
font-size:10.0pt;
font-family:"Times New Roman";}
@page Section1
{size:8.5in 11.0in;
margin:1.0in 1.25in 1.0in 1.25in;
mso-header-margin:.5in;
mso-footer-margin:.5in;
mso-paper-source:0;}
div.Section1
{page:Section1;} 

by ADAM (ADVANCED ATHLETICS, INC.)

Adding
lean muscle should be a priority in all fitness programs.  Muscle mass increases metabolism, and is key to losing weight and keeping it off.







NOTE: These are basic guidelines.  It is recommended that you speak to your nutritionist for in-depth information. 

CLIFF’S NOTES VERSION- EATING TO BE LEAN:
1. Eat 40/30/30
Each meal should contain the following ratio:
  • 30%-40% protein
  • 20-30% Carbohydrates
  • 25-35% fat
This
ratio allows nutrients to work together during digestion to stabilize blood
sugar. This ratio also optimal for maximum absorption of nutrients into the small intestine.
2. Eat every 3-4 hours. 
This creates stable blood sugar levels throughout the day. 
This provides your body with a steady stream of protein which is essential in creating  an anabolic (or, “muscle
building”) environment.
3. Pay attention to your proteins!
Incorporate a high-quality complete protein*
into each meal to provide the nine amino acids that are essential for adding
muscle tissue. 
*Not all protein are equal  
Complete proteins, like those found in meats, fish, chicken, eggs, soybeans,
and quinoa, are more bioavailable than incomplete proteins like those found in
most vegetables, beans and grains.
About Adam:
We’ve known Adam for over ten years. His company, Advanced Athletics, has been around for a looooooong time in the competitive and tough-to-penetrate fit-centric community of Venice Beach, CA.
Fitness professionals and enthusiasts come and go like passing clouds in the Venice fitness circuit (like me!).  However, Adam remains one of the leading names in the fitness circle. His theory and practice have grown in sophistication as well as in size.  Adam primarily works with his long-term and regular clients (many of whom are professional athletes).
To speak to Adam, specifically, schedule
a nutrition consultation
with Advanced
Athletics, or contact us with questions.

Wisdom learned from the birthday girl! (Nancy Hovde)

Learn to Live, Age Joyfully
Happiness is good for your health—so how do you keep a positive self image even as you age?


AAbout this post: Nancy Hovde is a life coach, author and blogger at UberEmpowermentBlog.com.  She lives in Redondo Beach and I’ve known her for almost ten years.  I admire her life-juggling abilities – her discipline, work ethic, positive attitude and resilience.  Happy birthday, Nancy.




I was searching for the perfect birthday card for my 93-year-old grandma at Card De A in Redondo Beach, and it reminded me of what’s become an annual tradition. Each year I ask her what words of wisdom she acquired from the year before. This year, the focus was on maintaining her level of happiness through humor. She makes fun of her memory lapses.
Her inner strength takes my breath away, especially when I notice her small, frail frame. I’m grateful that my loving and supportive parents surround her. Optimism, laughter, being around supportive family members and positive emotions can counteract many harmful effects at any age, especially in our sixties, seventies, eighties and beyond.

We don’t need to wait until we reach a certain age to acquire wisdom and humor; even as we age, we can begin to practice what can help us develop an optimistic outlook on life. Aside from eating right and exercising, it is awareness and knowledge of life experiences, changes in our expectations of life and remembering our sense of humor that contributes to aging gracefully and joyfully.
Many of us would speculate that positive emotions may directly affect health by altering the chemical balance of the body. We can start today, and as we age, we can learn to live more in the moment, appreciate life and experience a sense of satisfaction and well being. Our ability to maintain happiness and peace of mind depends on our attitude.


Here are some tips you can begin using today to ensure a positive attitude about life and aging:


Listen carefully to yourself. 
If you have put yourself down for as long as you can remember—perhaps even since childhood—a lifetime of negative subliminal messages can take their toll by turning you into a pessimist. I encourage you to try to spend one to three days writing down the phrases you use in your “self talk.” Chances are you will find that you repeat several phrases over and over again that reinforce your negative image of yourself. Once you are aware of these phrases, you can change them.
If an issue is not resolved, it will continue to fester—you will relive the negative emotions tied to that issue over and over again. 

Write about what you feel in your journal for about 15 minutes a day for three days. 
Once you begin to write, don’t stop until the time is up. This exercise will help you organize your thoughts and get negative ones out of your system. Notice how much better you feel about yourself at the end of three days.

Seek out new opportunities. 
Discover new challenges each month. You can feel optimistic when you always have a goal to achieve that’s just over the horizon. When you begin to get close to reaching that goal, set a new one. This allows you to keep moving consistently ahead.
Keep fun in your life by eliminating monotony, a sure killer of optimism. Try to do one new thing every week or month. Try a new coffee shop or restaurant, visit a museum, try a new activity or sport, or go to a book signing, lecture or community event. A friend and I enjoyed dinner at Turquoise in Redondo Beach. This was her first time eating there. It was fun to see her enthusiasm and delight when she discovered a new Turquoise in Redondo Beach. This was her first time eating there. It was fun to see her enthusiasm and delight when she discovered a new favorite restaurant.

Look for a new wonder of nature each day. 
I marvel each time I am on Portuguese Bend Trail and see the views of Palos Verdes. It’s a tranquil escape.

Learn to laugh at yourself. 
Yes, sad events and situations will come up in life, so allow yourself to experience grief—just don’t let it control you. Lend a hand to someone worse off than yourself by volunteering at a hospital or visiting a shelter. Try meditating for five minutes each day. During that time, 

Make a mental list of at least three great things that happened to you that day.
Simply recalling one episode of anger can depress the immune system; however, remembering a time when you compassionate or caring can enhance your immune system. So laugh a lot! You’ll heal your body and your mind—and feel joyful at any age.

Ask A Pro: How do we burn belly fat? (video)

(Video)
We ask our friend, Adam, how to best avoid the jiggles…(I’m not a fan of point #1)

  1. Avoid sugar (what?!?! – Is there any way around this?!)…
  2. Moderate your carbohydrates per meal
  3. Eat appropriate calories per meal
  4. Eat at correct meal intervals of every 3-4 hours
  5. Avoid trans-fats and hydrogenated oils
  6. Moderate alcohol intake
  7. Add lean muscle to your body with strength training
  8. Burn fat stores through cardiovascular training
  9. Eat whole foods that are high in fiber for improved digestion
  10. Be consistent in your diet and fitness habits





Are you smokin’??

Lifescript.com’s tips to help you stop smoking : < click to access article

RESOURCES:
National Cancer Institute
http://smokefree.gov/
Tobacco Information and Prevention Source (TIPS)
Centers for Disease Control and Prevention
http://www.cdc.gov/tobacco/index.htm
United States Department of Health and Human Services
1-800 Quit-Now
http://1800quitnow.cancer.gov/

it starts in my toes…

“… makes me crinkle my nose…” (this is how I describe feeling amazing)
I feel absolutely amazing.  Why?  I’ve accomplished the objectives I set for myself for the week (and scheduled smaller tasks throughout the next few days), I had a delicious and healthy meal, read a couple chapters of a good book, reconnected with supportive and genuine friends, submitted my resume, attended to other responsibilities while getting an opportunity to “flex” some valuable attributes in myself that I haven’t been able to in some time…
Days that make me “crinkle my nose” are top priority, and I make sure to schedule them strategically following tough weeks.  
Seriously. 
I reserved a portion of today for less demanding chores like drycleaning, laundry, household chores, returning calls to friends, etc…  I do have stressful obligations on my plate, however, for the next three hours, I choose to “responsibly ignore” them as a proactive and conscious form of self-preservation.  The objective is to shut down stress by being around inspiring people..or intellectually stimulating ideas…or existing in an environment filled with “things I love” (i.e. the outdoors, the stationery store, indoors watching movies with gorgeous imagery, museums, gardens, etc…) to bring me back to center.  When time’s up, I’m back to focused work, appointments, stress, bills, etc…
Do you set aside time to do the things you enjoy and be around friends (not associated with your job and/or goal to “network”) who are supportive and trustworthy?  
Existing in a “non-threatening” space where you can have your guard down and be as carefree as a child (read:  without being judged) is healthy and promotes “good” behavior in adults.  A recent research by Sreedhari Desai and Francesca Gino published by the Harvard Business Review found that an environment reminiscent of childhood encouraged adults to behave more ethically (link to article:  Adults Behave Better When Teddy Bears are in the Room). 

Have a lovely week.

3P


related articles:
“Scheduling Distraction-Free time” by Connectedlife.com
10 ways to make more time for yourself” by chronicbabe.com
“Nice girl = Bad Networker” (Thanks to Connected Life)

making strides..(video + images)

We love surfer/model Malia Jones (“MJ”).  She’s picture perfect and an incredible athlete.

Her physique is an example of strength, flexibility and womanhood.  She’s athletic and lean yet has the curves to fill out a bathing suit properly.  She captures [in “guy language”] “the beauty trifecta”.  And, in the catty world of modeling, competitive surfing and life in general, the “beauty trifecta” is a winning strategy.

So we ask our friend, Adam, what we can add to our current resistance training workout to increase flexibility and establish our own winning image “strategy”.  We’d like to have long, runway-model legs to make big beautiful strides in this world.

Adam examined whether or not our workouts incorporate one of the basic elements of exercise:  stretching.

Do you balance your resistance training with stretches?  “…Well…um, ‘yes’?”, we reluctantly lied.  He didn’t buy it for a second.  Thankfully, he provided us with some examples of basic stretches.  Thanks, Adam.

super-star fitness guru and incredible athlete, adam + gabby reece, help us out by showing us some stretches

Lunch meeting? Watch those portions. (video)

SIX WAYS TO STAY THE HEALTHY COURSE WHILE EATING AT RESTAURANTS:

1. Eat every 3-4 hours
2. Learn your portion sizes
3. Skip the bread
4. Hold the butter
5. Know what to eat first
6. Choose restaurants wisely

courtesy of Advanced Athletics, Inc.

Fitness Action Plan

Here’s a tool for staying the course of your fitness goals (developed by Advanced Athletics Inc.)

3 gestures that foster friendship

(Note:  If you are not interested in being likeable, please stop reading)

Forget about eye-contact and firm handshakes, here are three ways to make a lasting impression…

related articles:
10 ways to make more time for yourself” by chronicbabe.com
“Nice girl = Bad Networker” (Thanks to Connected Life)

the sexy ‘santa monica stairs’ (img)

When we think of ideal physiques, we find healthy, strong, fit and flexible types to be best.  It’s important that one is able to move, dance, hold our friends and loved ones tightly and possess the energy to power-through tough days.

OUR PLAN:  Achieve an athletic and graceful dancer’s physique (a la Sophia Boutella)


Dancers seem to have the perfect combination of fluidity, grace and strength.  To appear graceful in one’s clothes yet feel confident and able to pack a mighty punch gives a girl a sort of edge noticeable in her walk.

 

EQUIPMENT OF CHOICE:  The [FREE] ‘SANTA MONICA STAIRS’

Realistically, our vision requires that we stop blogging right now, go outside and play in the beautiful summer weather until we feel absolutely great.  It’s free…It’s lovely…And, it’s fun!

See you out there!
note:  John Mayer not included

THE WORKOUT:  designed by Adam @ ADVANCED ATHLETICS:  
members:  view .pdf file of workout here.

high heels > lower back pain (video)

lower back pain?  The culprit?  10-inch Christian Louboutins. 
here’s one alternative:

Isometric Stretches by our friend, Adam at Advanced Athletics, Inc.

Get Lean, not mean…

Here are Adam’s 3 essential tips for eating to gain lean muscle:
1. Eat 40/30/30. Each meal should contain a ratio of 30%-40% protein, 20-30% Carbohydrates, and 25-35% fat. The proper ratio allows the nutrients to work together in digestion to create stable blood sugar, and maximum absorption of nutrients into the small intestine.
2. Eat every 3-4 hours. This will provide a steady stream of nutrients and stabilize blood sugar throughout the day. Your body needs a steady stream of protein in order to create an anabolic (muscle building) environment.
3. Not all protein is created equal. Complete proteins, like those found in meats, fish, chicken, eggs, soybeans, and quinoa, are more bioavailable than incomplete proteins like those found in most vegetables, beans and grains. Incorporate a high-quality complete protein into each meal to provide the nine amino acids that are essential for adding muscle tissue.
Thanks, Adam!
(advancedathletics.com)

Retro Handset (images)

what’s more ridiculous than seeing a prettypinkpony walking around Larchmont Village talking on the phone using a large red handset?  suggesting you do the same.

something to consider if:

  • you’re concerned about radiation transmission from your cell phone to your head
  • want to draw attention to yourself
  • want to speak on a cordless phone handset connected to your charging blackberry
  • or, any combination of the above..

about $30 dollars – contact me for more info re: “Moshi Moshi”