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Titles & all of that ” ” … (introspection)

I’m often cut off mid-sentence and asked, “But..what do you wanna do?”.

Fair enough question.

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I suppose operating from the gut can make sense to one’s self but not necessarily to others.

It isn’t as if I responsibly mapped out my professional trajectory like I was taught to do…Instead, I followed my heart (whatever that means) and learned important lessons along the way. But, that doesn’t help clarify things, does it?

Unfortunately, passion can lack the efficient jargon demanded by those who wish to make a quick assessment of another’s perceived added value.

How silly was I to add “passion” to the bulletpoints on my resume? The entire Dalek population would explode attempting to grasp this concept.

Passion is tough to quantify. Just ask any successful entrepreneur.

That said, using a wordcloud tool has failed to capture the essence of the value I can add to any organization – instinct, experience, heart, loyalty, intuition, perserverance, empathy, connection, et al…These terms are not trending on LinkedIn — Google alerts would’ve informed me, and I just checked.

So, since my unorthodox list of accomplishments are invisible to search engines (and, incomprehensible to Daleks), I decided to explicity define “success” for myself as a courtesy to my new friends and acquaintances.

Here is what my point B looks like:

*You’re having your A.M. coffee while reading about the biggest networking event of the year on a page in the WSJ.

(Blurb for one of many well-known international events)

The text reads:

Notable Speakers include:

Abby Joseph Cohen one of the most respected figures in investing circles and is the chief US investment strategist for Goldman Sachs Group, Inc.

Anna Wintour, Editor-in-Chief, Vogue

Carrie Fisher, Actress best known as Princess Leia

Meg Gomez, Makes handmade stationery & sells them on Etsy

Sarah Blakely, CEO & Founder, Spanx

Genevieve Bos, Founding Publisher, Pink Magazine

Sheila Kahanek, former Accountant, Enron.

*end scene

I hope that helped clarify some things for you.

Have a great weekend!!!

Best,

Meg

*end scene

 ;P
(SPOILER: To be continued…)

“…the beauty of letting things go…”

Bridget Hoida

 

“The beauty [of Los Angeles] is the beauty of letting things go; letting go of where you came from; letting go of old lessons; letting go of what you want for what you are, or what you are for what you want; letting go of so much—and that is a hard beauty to love.”—Michael Ventura, “Grand Illusion”Letters at 3 AM: Reports on Endarkenment

via Bridget Hoida on: hard beauty.

Bridget Hoida on: hard beauty

Bridget is a friend, mentor, inspiration, advisor, twitter follower, confidante, et cetera…

I learned a lot about self-acceptance from Bridget’s writing advice during my years as an undgrad (and afterwards).

As it turns out, writers view words as instruments by which individuals connect to others. I learned that writing can be formatted in any way as long as the message and the spirit of the message are successfully transported to another — carrying with it the essence of its source.

Writing is a vehicle.

And, unlike perfectly formatted bullets on a memo, the musings of a good writer isn’t only concerned with getting you to point B –she wants to take you on a ride!!!

Congrats on your beautiful book, B. And, thanks for the ride.

Love,

Meg

Bridget Hoida on: hard beauty.

Great question. (via @RonaldSkelton) #Responsible #Consumerism

Look at the last thing you bought, what problem did it solve, what benefit did you buy?

— Ronald Skelton (@ronaldskelton) May 6, 2012

How much thought do we put into where we spend our time, energy and money? Do you consider how the product in your shopping basket got to your hand? How was it manufactured? Whose idea was it to create this? What was intended when the decision to produce the product was made?

Let us know — do you think it matters???

We encourage you to pause and think about what message you’re helping create each time you make a purchase or decision. What you buy makes a bigger statement than you think — it supports ideas, practices and institutions. Be smart. Choose wisely.

Thanks for stopping by.

All the best,

3P

 

How’s your style? Will it help you reach success? (#3PCstyle)

#3PCstyle details: https://myprettypinkponies.files.wordpress.com/2012/04/3pcstyle.pdf

Join our Twittter/Pinterest conversation with Fashion Designer, Lando Ortega tonight at 6:30 (PT).

Lando provides us with his expert opinion on the following:

  • Does fashion or style matter? Why/Why not?
  • What kind of impact does styling and fashion have on women?
  • How do we dress for who we really are (vs. who we wish to be) – body type, fit, style, fabric, drape…?
Please feel free to interject with follow up questions and thoughts after our guest has responded to the current question. Thank you!!!
3P
New to Twitter chat??? Start here! (Guidelines on participating on Twitter chats)
Resources:
Edith Head's How to Dress for Success
Sasha Charnin Morrison's Secrets of Stylists: An Insider's Guide To Styling The Stars

Turn Enemies into Allies (#HBRchat)

[View the story “#HBRchat Topic, April 26: Turn Your Enemies into Allies” on Storify]

more #HBRChats

Cool, Determined and Entrepreneurial: Etsy Community Strategist, Morgan Evans is awesome!

The Pink Ponies Etsy team is honored to have been invited to tonight’s Etsy dinner by Morgan Evans, Community Strategist for Etsy , the global online marketplace for handmade goods and antiques.

“Cool, Determined and Under 30” (via Inc. magazine)

Tonight we met inspiring local entrepreneurs who create and sell handmade goods via their online store on Etsy. These Los Angeles creatives utilize technology and the platform provided by Etsy to lead teams of like-minded sellers.

We don’t necessarily think about the handmade goods seller when the word “entrepreneur” is used, however, these small business owners aren’t sitting around bedazzling for nothing — they make it rain!

Stay tuned for more feedback and some background on the L.A. – based Etsy Entrepreneurs in an upcoming post!

3P

(Inc. mag article link)

Funny…

 

It may not be pink, but it helps tell our story…(img)

Connect  … in fancy high-heeled shoes (“pretend” high-heeled shoes are okay, too)!!!

Don’t be shy – reach out and connect!

… in fancy high-heeled shoes (“pretend” shoes will do)!

Happy networking!

3P

The greatest hazard in life…

“To love is to risk not being loved in return. To hope is to risk pain. To try is to risk failure, but risk must be taken because the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing.

Leo F. Buscaglia

Wishing everyone a beautiful week!

3P

Is anyone listening? (Video)

Why have we become afraid of conversation…intimacy…relationships???

Poignant and sad perspective re: how we are being shaped by technology by psychologist, Sherry Turkle.

 

Who are your heroes? (img)

We asked our readers to identify and share images of ‘heroes’ on our board, and the results were diverse..
Some shared images of fictional characters, while others posted images of pets.
In the end, we can certainly see how the shared images can serve as visual inspiration.

Continue reading

How’s YOUR day goin’??

I have the worst headache today.

Ever feel like there’s way too much to think about all at once?!?!?  Well you’re not the only one, sister!!!

Sometimes…It’s just one  of those days and that’s just that! I think I’ll just sit still, close my eyes and breathe…

All the best,

Meg

Kindness isn’t always sweet…

Know what occurred to me earlier? Kindness isn’t always expressed in a pleasant sounding voice. Sometimes it’s disappointing when someone makes a decision that’s for our own best interest.

Can I Be Fully Me?: Stages of Relational Development

“…it takes thirty years to mature emotionally,…”

via Can I Be Fully Me?: Stages of Relational Development.

Can love make you healthier and more immune to disease? #Love #Health …

Can love improve mental and physical health and aid in our  response to pain?

Can love  make us wiser?

© 2006-2010, all artwork and website copyright, http://www.carolinehu.com. All rights reserved.

Included in this post is a link to an interesting piece by Diane Ackerman on a new field in science, interpersonal neurobiology (in other words, the science of relationships).

The fundamental idea of interpersonal neurobiology draws its vigor from one of the great discoveries of our era: that the brain is constantly rewiring itself based on daily life.

What we pay most attention to defines who we are — physically altering our brains…

The article argues that how one chooses to spend the hours in our lives literally shapes our physical selves.

Continue reading the NYTimes article.

Response to: Gender, Age & Professionalism discussion

I wrote the following earlier this week, but, unfortunately, it looks like it was never posted:

I can’t thank all of you enough for your generous time and willingness to share your professional and wise insight regarding professionalism, age & gender. I recognize that you have no obligation to read this let alone take the time to write such helpful advice. I’m overwhelmed by your support and connection. The lack of clarity between professional men/women’s intentions can create confusion and frustration. Your insight serves everyone – irrespective of gender or other irrelevant classification. I speak for all who read and help write our blogs and sites – Thank you for your help. Social Media would be worthless if not for its ability to effectively and respectfully exchange valuable ideas and perspectives with people…Most especially those who would never have had the “social wherewithal” to receive such helpful insight.

All the best, 3P & associates.

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Thanks to:

Dian
Deborah Thomas
MJS
Deb Babbit (@DebBabbit)
Jeff Rickard
princessscribe
RongHua Ching (@Asiabroadcast)
Joe Passkiewicz
Senecea Jefferson
Bobby Umar
OOC
Dean Guest
AJ Borrowsky
FluidAsbo
Iesley Whyte
ResumeSmith
Nicco
Douglas Park
Seth Carginolo (@carge77)
Laura Hunt (@LauraHuntStyle)
Sally Hanan (@inksnatcher)
moxiecouture
Murhphy Palmer

…and others who continue to read and provide feedback.

Fill in the blank: ________________ make adults insecure. (Vote & share!) Thank you.

Thank you for taking time to stop by our site to share your thoughts.

Do come back to see which answer got the most votes.

Have a beautiful day!!!

(P.S. Cut yourself some slack…we’re all probably much more amazing than we give ourselves credit for!)

You WILL stumble…

“Losing friends” to adulthood…

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girlfriends

“I’m pregnant”, she happily delivers in a text message. Continue reading

MONEY: Our Generation & Debt (Youtube vid)

Fantastic message by Rachel Cruze. Follow her on Twitter: @RachelCruze
#GenY #Leadership #FinancialGoals #Money #Prettypinkponies #RachelCruze

Retrospectives: Gen.Y Rants on Relationships… (no pictures)

Let me be the first to tell you that I’m far from perfect. (This is an understatement)

I’ve screwed up simple situations that most of you would’ve probably handled with more maturity, tact and foresight.  

*enter growing pains + embarrassing realizations

I take time to wax introspective on my behavior, my thinking, my values, et cetera…to understand how I managed to make silly mistakes that my friends claim they wouldn’t have made. I mull this over until I’m satisfied and have come to grips with how I screwed up or inadvertently created a negative impression on others. (Please don’t ask why I spend too much time reflecting)

That being said, I’m certain all failing results I’ve been part of aren’t always caused primarily by my deficiencies. Deciding whom to blame is not a productive activity; it’s a waste of time.

OBJECTIVE:
However, I’m hoping my insight and reflection will provide perspective that will help others who like to mull things over.

CONCLUSION: 
I’ve decided that a lot of times, errors are combinations of misinterpreted facts, emotionally-charged mis-judgements and unnecessary conclusions people make about others.

The problem is, often times we tend to think our abilities to decipher and decode human behavior are a gazillion times better than they actually are. Sadly, we are only wasting our time when we sit and analyze others’ actions to try and determine WHY they behave the way they do.

Fact is, people’s motivations change all the time. Even if you pinpoint another’s motives and intentions, they aren’t helpful. For instance, if you’re someone’s boss, then your role requires you reduce risk by assessing others’ behaviors to predict their future behaviors – not judge your direct’s value as an individual.

Again, motivations will probably change. Behavioral tendencies will less likely change that much. 



CHALLENGES:

A. Needless to say, a person who believes he/she has the natural Freudian acumen and capacity (and time) to analyze enough behavioral data to comprehend others’ intentions is ineffective.

Again, ineffective. Why?

  1. you’re not Freud.
  2. you’re not smart enough to make those conclusions.
  3. you don’t know the person’s background (even if you do dig and waste time and resources to find background information about a person)
  4. you’re not in the person’s head.
  5. Your conclusions don’t matter and will probably won’t contribute to your overall purpose.
B. Many people attach their emotional response to others’ behaviors and consider it in their analysis of the individual. This leads to inaccurate assessments and relationship problems.
For example, some people (ahem) tend to be more assertive than others. This is fact. We all have different behavioral tendencies.
For instance, some may talk more quickly, occasionally interrupt you while your speaking, etc… However, these behaviors are not done to offend or hurt others’ feelings. They are merely tendencies that are emotionally neutral (most of the time in a professional environment). The person speaking often does not consider it an affront to behave more assertively than you. It is merely part of their behavioral inclinations as an individual.
*enter behavioral diversity What a concept!
C. As you can see, this could be a big problem at the workplace. 
For example, if a “boss” takes offense to his/her direct’s behavioral tendencies then decides said person is “rude”, “disrespectful”, etc… it will create a culture that shuts out good ideas and good people. 
A person who decides another is “disrespectful” vs. considering that the person’s behavior is “different” from what is familiar to themselves is focused on judgement and is not separating fact from emotion. Attaching these labels on people is not productive, correct, professional or a good technique for effective collaboration.
CLOSING THOUGHT:
Why not create less conflict by understanding that people each have their own behavioral tendencies and spend less time figuring out why the person who offended you is less ____________ than you? 
That way, you can productively help improve others’ behaviors to achieve the outcomes you mutually desire without creating discomfort between one another? What do you think?

…more rants

Do You Rank People According To Their Net Worth???

…Then, you’re probably no friend of mine.
Source: waveavenue.com via Tim on Pinterest

About: Sepia Smiles, etsy.com friend – (images) Re-Post

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One of the best things about blogging is meeting people with similar interests.  Roseanna, owner of Sepia Smiles, is one of those people whose interests and styles we find inspiring.  We’re lucky to have met her through our blogging adventures.

Roseanna’s aesthetic is simple, clean, restrained femininity.  Her pastel color schemes and collection of vintage household items is an elegant interpretation of Anthropologie’s “country chic”.

The Sepia Smiles “look” is apparent in Roseanna’s interior designs, home decor, hand-made stationery and even her website layout


As you know, we, too, love making stationery, lots of white-space in our design layout, vintage items, and many other things Sepia Smiles finds ‘pretty’…

We look forward to offering Sepia Smiles products on the Pretty Pink Ponies site soon.
Nice job, Roseanna!!!
(**all photos courtesy of Sepia Smiles)

Multitasking: How to develop your core muscle group while reading (video)

Our buddy, Adam, explains what our “core” does, why it matters, then demonstrates my favorite exercise to do while Tweeting (and re-tweeting)!

Nov. 26th is Shop Small Saturday!


Today is “Shop Small Saturday”! We love the charm of small stores and restaurants (some of which have been around since we were kids!).


We’ve literally met and spent time getting to know the owners and shop keepers of the above-listed stores and are impressed with their vision, persistence and professionalism. (See our reviews on Yelp!)



These hard-working “store keepers” and their teams provide the best selection of carefully chosen products,  and amazing customer service. A genuine overall experience!

We look forward to shopping today!

SUPPORT SMALL BUSINESS SATURDAY®

The 2nd annual Small Business Saturday® is
a day dedicated to supporting small businesses
on one of the busiest shopping weekends of the year.
On November 26, we’re asking millions of people to Shop Small at their favorite local stores and help fuel the economy. When we all shop small, it will be huge.

PLEDGE TO SHOP SMALL ON NOV 26

(Read more about Small Business Saturday here)

in case you didn’t know…


our [evolving] mission

Being a girl in this city (L.A.) and “making it” as a professional while keeping up with fashion, friends, family, style, relationships, fitness, reading and everything else is nearly impossible.  We could always benefit from more support from our friends, families, network and other resources within our reach.  



It’s our mission to provide readers insight by posting about lessons we’ve learned and the lessons we continue to learn.



The content we post is for anyone who could use some food for thought especially the young woman “standing in brand new designer shoes” weary to step forward.  We hope you’ll find value in stories shared by others who were in similar shoes…as pretty as the pair on your very own feet.  Walking tall and pretty in high-heels after stumbling isn’t easy.  It helps to know others who have been there, recovered and what they do keep “balanced” in their tall heels.

Thanks for visiting and we encourage your feedback and comments on how you manage to balance your life during your trajectory to success.  Take a nice deep breath.  Then, put your best foot forward and make big strides!!!  

Yours,


Pretty Pink Ponies (“3P”)


Friendship "Break Ups": Thoughts by Lauren

By LAUREN STEWART


Recently, I had a friend ignore me for months because she “needed a break from friendships” because of her busy schedule and life. I completely understand how busy people can be and how friendships can take a beating because you simply don’t have time. But I personally think that you have to take the time to maintain friendships, no matter what. Friendship is one of the best things about life, so why take it for granted?


1. Schedule friend time like you schedule your appointments. Even at your busiest, when you see something in your schedule or calendar, you know it has to be done. Sometimes, you may not feel like hanging out with friends when there are a million things to be done, but once you’re there and having fun, you’ll realize how much you needed that time to recharge.


2. Don’t make blowing off someone a habit. Most people are pretty understanding if someone has to cancel a friend date because of work, illness, or an emergency. But if you make a habit of cancelling plans and blowing people off… unfortunately, you’re sure to be friendless in no time.


3. Take the time to do nice things for your friends, even if they live far away and you don’t see them often. Make sure you talk on the phone, Skype, send notes on Facebook, pay for lunch every once in a while… the little things that mean a lot in friendships. 

4. Be available. Often times, you really need your friends when something happens. Be available via phone, text, whatever and drop everything if a friend really needs you.


5. Reevaluate friendships and realize everyone makes mistakes. You will get busy and put off calling that friend and your friends may do the same with you. Small problems can always get worked out. But big problems, like when you feel like your friend doesn’t care about you anymore and they won’t talk about it, it may be time to let go of that friendship. Trust your gut.





About Lauren:
Lauren is a fellow Gen.Y blogger and a recent college graduate with a degree from Oakland University in Journalism. Lauren contributes her writing to blogs, social media, online magazines and sites and provides insight to the lives of Twenty Somethings (Gen Y). We appreciate Lauren’s maturity and contributions to 3P and follow her advice. 


You, too, can follow Lauren here:
http://askinyourface.com/
lauren@myprettypinkponies.com
@lrstewar

SHOEtiquette: Brainstorming with The Very Hip Etiquette Expert (aka VHEE), Jacqueline Whitmore (images)

@prettypinkpro What kind of heels would you recommend
for a hip etiquette expert?
(Asked by @etiquetteexpert Jacqueline Whitmore)

I was excited to receive this question asked by the guru of presentation herself, Ms. Jacqueline Whitmore (@etiquetteexpert).  I admire the Very Hip Etiquette Expert’s (“VHEE”) updated tips on how to be socially
graceful.  She epitomizes grace and
manners as well as entrepreneurial success.  The thought
of giving her my thoughts on what shoes to wear was one I couldn’t even dream of considering.  

I immediately went to the drawing board…


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 I.  First, I
considered what [little] I know about her style as well as her professionalresponsibilities as an etiquette expert.

I came up with the following list:
·  
She
sets an example.  She leads subtly
and politely.
·  
She
is busy and efficient, yet seems to do everything effortlessly and with grace.
·  
She
is appropriately dressed and polished for many social events occurring back to
back to back.
·  
She
is au courant, festive, attractive and engaging. At the same time however, she
is conscientious about drawing too much attention to herself.
·  
She
is always courteous and honors tradition but is never ever outdated.
·  
Compromising
her posture and gait with uncomfortable shoes is unacceptable.
·  
She
must continue making big strides with perfectly put-together ensembles.
II.  Then, I immediately came up with three brands
that align with @etiquetteexpert’s image in aesthetic, ladylike manners and
personality.
My top
choice was Kate Spade.
III.   Next I created three general categories:
a.
casual
b.
professional
c.
social
event





A.  Casual  
Suggestion: heels (or flats) in colors that add wit to understated classics.


I picture VHEE (Very Hip Etiquette Expert) wearing tailored cropped denim to add a modern and youthful element to an otherwise “Easter Sunday-ish” cardi- twinset.  The examples in images 1 and 2 have simple silhouettes and are understated enough to pull off a bright shoe without being visually shocking.
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B. Professional
 Suggestion: Rich colors, soft leather, and a hint of Old World craftsmanship that convey refined taste and gravitas. 




There are effective ways to convey success and professionalism without looking like a contestant on The Apprentice.  


Pinstripe suits and the basic Navy, Charcoal and Black were the VHEE’s “training wheels”.  At this point in her career, she requires a fashion identity that reflects her sophisticated style and expertise in presentation.  Images 3 and 4 are sophisticated and professional without looking like a corporate cartoon.  At this stage in her career, the VHEE can exude accountability and expertise without the aid of pinstripes and penny loafers.

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C. Social
Suggestion: Festive, fun and quality footwear that can dazzle the crowd without being the loudest one in the room.



Images 5 and 6 are perfect for holiday get-togethers with your social circle.  The silhouettes are ladylike and feminine without being outdated.  It’s beautiful to be sentimental. Balance your 1950’s references with pieces from our time period.  As I mentioned, Kate Spade does this with wit and taste.  Remember: too many of grandma’s antiquated heirloom pieces can be reminiscent of mothballs instead of nostalgia.

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Overall, our Etiquette Expert will always be the paragon of class and good taste.  She’s a delightful example of how to reach success with style….in fancy, high-heeled shoes!

Thank you for your support, Ms. Whitmore.  We wish you continued success!!!

Kindest regards,

3P

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To contact Jacqueline Whitmore, please visit: 
www.etiquetteexpert.com and  @etiquetteexpert.

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