Independence Day … Everyday!

Happy Mother’s Day, mom!

My taste for fashion and professional clothing is greatly influenced by my mother.
Each morning, I watched her leave the house to run her medium-sized print ad company, VIRGO INC.


Always tailored; always ladylike.

This will make you smarter > Defining “genius”. (Video)

I often revisit this conversation between Malcolm Gladwell and television journalist, Robert Krulwich where they discuss what defines a “genius”.

This conversation looks at the following topics and questions:

  • Is it “good” to segregate the superstars from the average stars?
  • What makes Tiger “Tiger Woods”?
  • What if it was a rule that we couldn’t ask one another from which university we graduated?
  • What is the “selection effect”?
  • Is our education system “…run like a modeling agency”?

(If you don’t have a flash player, please use this link to view the interview. Thanks for stopping by.)

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How to improve your A-Game (Kareem Abdul-Jabbar).

You were known as a focused player who wasn’t very personable. Did that hurt your career?

Well, it had a negative effect on how I was portrayed. But I had no one to explain the value of public relations to me. When I was in college, there was such an intense demand from the press that John Wooden said they couldn’t talk to me at all. So that was what I took for normal going into the NBA. Being at the top of my game and working as hard as I could for the people who employed me—that was my primary focus, and everything else was secondary. So I didn’t always respond to social situations in a pleasant way. When it came to talking to people, I was kind of reserved. But shyness is something you have to overcome. Later in my career, I started doing a lot better relating to fans and talking to the media. I think that’s continued to improve in my retirement.

Excellent interview with Kareem Abdul-Jabbar and Harvard Business Review. This interview highlights elements of success and transcends industries beyond sports. We continue to explore lessons from athletes on tonight’s #3PChat with @RickardonSports. Please follow and ask questions using “#3PCwin”. Thank you.

This interview discusses:

  • Why PR matters in addition to your team’s results.
  • What role managers play in development.
  • Being multi-dimensional
  • How to play with Magic.
  • How being described as “difficult” hurts your game.
  • Improvement in general.
  • Being accessible.
  • How to market and sell yourself.
  • Good-judgment.
  • Et cetera…

We highly recommend this interview with Kareem as he reflects on his trajectory as he evolved from a great player to a winning player on and off court:

Life’s Work: Kareem Abdul-Jabbar – Harvard Business Review.

It may not be pink, but it helps tell our story…(img)

Connect  … in fancy high-heeled shoes (“pretend” high-heeled shoes are okay, too)!!!

Don’t be shy – reach out and connect!

… in fancy high-heeled shoes (“pretend” shoes will do)!

Happy networking!

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Can a stylish woman command a country’s military forces??? (Images)

Can a high-ranking woman official expect respect from male counterparts and direct reports while carrying a baby and a D&G bag?

Spain says ‘yes’. This is not new news, but a great example that illustrates how to execute balance while serving as a high-ranking political official:

When Spanish Prime Minister José Luis Rodríguez Zapatero’s new cabinet members took their oath of office before King Juan Carlos on Monday, one of them, the recently-appointed Defense Minister, stood out from the rest. Literally. Carme Chacón, 37, is not only the first woman to head Spain’s armed forces. She is also seven months pregnant.

Article take from Time.com

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Read more: http://www.time.com/time/world/article/0,8599,1730927,00.html#ixzz1s3tSNwKr

Who are your heroes? (img)

We asked our readers to identify and share images of ‘heroes’ on our board, and the results were diverse..
Some shared images of fictional characters, while others posted images of pets.
In the end, we can certainly see how the shared images can serve as visual inspiration.

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Confidently “un-pretty”. (images)

Audrey Hepburn
When I worked full time in corporate America, I was always polished and groomed at the office. I worked in an environment where presentation and details made a huge impact on the perception of one’s sense of professionalism.

That said, it was always so refreshing to become “un-pretty” during weekends.

What does it mean to be “un-pretty”? First, let’s take a look at what “pretty” means:

I define ‘pretty’ as being polite, pleasant and polished.  “Pretty” is the very essence of being a lady — coiffed hair, a manicure, a poise presentation, warm, approachable and socially graceful. (Think of a house party’s hostess – friendly and sociable). Someone “pretty” offers you coffee and cookies when you visit their homes. The “pretty” girl tells you how great you look (to simplify the concept); she is concerned about whether or not you’re comfortable and considers what your preferences are.

When I use the term “un-pretty”, I’m not implying that I made an effort to look unattractive (although, a lot of times, this was the case). What I mean is, my style of presentation was less ladylike and lacked the polish and niceties one would expect from a pageant-trained woman.

How does one achieve a “pretty” look?

Feminine make up highlighting the shape of one’s eyes + full lips + groomed brows and hairstyle + polished ready-to-face-the-camera style + tailored and put-togehter – any piece of hair out of place

I love the “un-pretty” side of my closet as much as the polished and tailored pieces I own. It’s necessary, at times, to wear wrinkled shirts, athletic shoes, cotton tees and unruly hair. I say this because I think it’s an advantage to be comfortable even without having to project the socially-constructed version of “girl”. You can be attractive in various ways — wearing pearls and a tiara or sneakers and a baseball cap.

To me, an un-pretty style can convey the gritty sexiness of Marlon Brando’s Stanley Kowalski.

Un-pretty means dressing with style without having to make a lot of effort — in So Cal this laid-back style is one that many non- L.A. natives try very hard to emulate. It’s the confidence in one’s self without having to look like a doll who took two hours to apply make up.

It’s an image that actors and models (who spend their working days in full make-up) naturally have on their days off. A look that conveys the understanding that if they wanted to, they could very well shave their scruff and be as pretty as they come. The “unpretty” girl doesn’t necessarily say ‘please’ or ‘thank you’ in a bubbly voice. She may give you a smirk or a nod of acknowledgement if she’s pleased with you.

Simplified, the “unpretty” girl asks you for a smoke without taking into consideration whether or not you approve of her smoking. She is not as self-conscious as her socially-graceful “pretty” girl counterpart.

How does one achieve this un-pretty too-cool-to-care style?

“undone hair” + cotton tee + element of relaxed or athletic gear – bubbly persona – string of pearls – “matchy-matchy” accessories + grit + attitude…

It’s an image that says, “I’ve got better things to do than try and please everyone I encounter on the street. I’m more than just eye-candy and amusement — I’ve got more important roles to play.” 
I’m sure Sienna Miller (above) is a very pleasant and classy lady. However, I can guarantee that there are probably times when she could care less about what flavor cupcake would make your day. On those days, if you stopped her in the street to chat with her about your exciting new puppy and tell her that it would be really cool to have a picture of you two together, she would somehow let you know that there are other priorities in her day that are a bit more important than hearing your about your puppy’s outfit and how much you’d love to update your Facebook profile picture.
Do you have an “un-pretty” side? How do you celebrate it?
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Congratulations, B. (Book: So L.A.)

ABOUT

Beautiful Magdalena de la Cruz breezed through Berkeley and built an empire selling designer water. She’d never felt awkward or unattractive… until she moved to Los Angeles. In L.A. where “everything smells like acetone and Errol Flynn” Magdalena attempts to reinvent herself as a geographically appropriate bombshell—with rhinestones, silicone and gin—as she seeks an escape from her unraveling marriage and the traumatic death of her younger brother, Junah.

Magdalena’s Los Angeles is glitzy and glamorous but also a landscape of the absurd. Her languidly lyrical voice provides a travel guide for a city of make-believe, where even Hollywood insiders feel left out.

About.

Even heroes have “what-do-I-wear?” probems.

#Supergirl

Difficult Conversations: A step-by-step dialogue template

I received simple but important communication tips tonight. Continue reading

Got Enemies?

I AM AN EMOTIONAL CREATURE (E. Ensler)

I love being a girl.

I can feel what you’re feeling as you’re feeling inside the feeling before

I am an emotional creature.

Things do not come to me as intellectual theories or hard-pressed ideas. They
post through my organs and legs and burn up my ears.

Oh, I know when your girlfriend’s really pissed off, even though she appears to
give you what you want.

I know when the storm is coming. I can feel the invisible stirrings in the air

I can tell that he won’t call back. It’s a vibe I share

I am an emotional creature

I love that I do not take things lightly.

Everything is intense to me:
The way I walk in the streets. The way my Mama wakes me up. The way it’s
unbearable when I lose. The way I hear bad news.

I am an emotional creature

I am connected to everything and everyone. I was born like that. Don’t you say
it’s all negative, that it’s only a teenage thing or it’s only because I’m a
girl.

These feelings make me better. They make me present. They make me ready.
They make me strong.

I am an emotional creature.

There is a particular way of knowing. It’s like the older women
somehow forgot.
I rejoice that it’s still in my body.

Oh, I know when the coconuts are about to fall. I know we have pushed the Earth
too far. I know my father isn’t coming back and that no one’s prepared for the
fire.

I know that lipstick means more than show and boys are super
insecure and so-called terrorists are made, not born

I know that one kiss could take away all my decision making ability. And you
know what? Sometimes it should.

This is not extreme. It’s a girl thing. What we would all be if the big
door inside us flew open.

Don’t tell me not to cry, to calm me down, not to be so extreme, to be
reasonable.

I am an emotional creature.

It’s how the Earth got made, how the wind continues to pollinate.

You don’t tell the Atlantic Ocean how to behave.

I am an emotional creature.

Why would you shut me down and turn me off? I am your remaining memory. I can
take you back. Nothing has been diluted, nothing’s leaked out.

I love, hear me, I love that I can feel the feelings inside you.

Even if they stop my life.

Even if they break my heart. Even if they take me off track.

They make me responsible.

I am an emotional, I am an emotional, unconditional, devotional creature.

And, I love, hear me,I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE, being a girl

 by E. Ensler…




This piece touched me when I first saw her recite it on TED. How do you like it?

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Quote of the day: #Accomplishment

“Those who boast of their descent, 
brag on what they owe to others.” 


Seneca 






Make your own mark…in fancy high-heeled shoes! #poniesGTD

…more rants

Quote of the day: #Branding

“Sometimes you have to sacrifice your performance for high heels.” 


– Gwen Stefani


 This quote speaks to how essential image is for a person’s success. Gwen Stefani’s style and character is just as much a part of her identity as her musical talent. It wouldn’t be the same if she showed up to “work” lazily dressed in frumpy clothes. That’s not what her boss (fans) pays her for.


 In a similar way, professionals are expected to dress according to what their business, industry, leaders, clients, expect of them. It’s part of your identity as a responsible and successful pro.



Do you agree?

HBR Ideacast with Dr. ALICE HENDRICKSON EAGLY

Present position: James Padilla Chair of Arts and Sciences, Professor of Psychology, 
Faculty Fellow of Institute for Policy Research, and Professor of Management & 
Organizations, all at Northwestern University.
Address: Department of Psychology, Swift Hall, 2029 Sheridan Road, Northwestern 
University, Evanston, IL 60208-2710, USA
Telephone: (847) 467-5026; FAX (847) 491-7859
E-MAIL Address: eagly@northwestern.edu
UNIVERSITY DEGREES & HONORS
A. B. Summa Cum Laude (Social Relations); Radcliffe College (Harvard University), 
Cambridge, Massachusetts; June, 1960
Phi Beta Kappa, 1959
Phi Beta Kappa Ranking Senior Prize at Radcliffe College, 1960
National Merit Scholar, 1956-60
Fulbright Fellow (Norway), 1960-61
M. A.  (Psychology); University of Michigan, Ann Arbor, Michigan; June, 1963
Ph. D. (Social Psychology); University of Michigan, Ann Arbor, Michigan; December, 
1965
Woodrow Wilson Fellow, 1961-62
National Science Foundation Cooperative Graduate Fellow, 1962-65
Sigma Xi, 196