Bridget is a friend, mentor, inspiration, advisor, twitter follower, confidante, et cetera…
I learned a lot about self-acceptance from Bridget’s writing advice during my years as an undgrad (and afterwards).
As it turns out, writers view words as instruments by which individuals connect to others. I learned that writing can be formatted in any way as long as the message and the spirit of the message are successfully transported to another — carrying with it the essence of its source.
Writing is a vehicle.
And, unlike perfectly formatted bullets on a memo, the musings of a good writer isn’t only concerned with getting you to point B –– she wants to take you on a ride!!!
Congrats on your beautiful book, B. And, thanks for the ride.
One way I keep myself inspired is with Pinterest’s visual pin boards.
I find that seeing images and images of possibilities that could result from my hard work helps get my motivation back. See for yourself!
These works place Fairy Tale characters in modern day scenarios. In all of the images the Princess is placed in an environment that articulates her conflict. The ‘…happily ever after’ is replaced with a realistic outcome and addresses current issues… Disney’s perfect Princesses [are] juxtaposed with real issues that were affecting women around me, such as illness, addiction and self-image issues.
Famous photographer, Annie Leibovitz, is also credited for her beautiful work photographing celebrities as Disney Princesses. Let’s examine the different messages their images convey:
|Snow White courtesy of Dina Goldstein (Fallen Princesses)
by Annie Leibovitz (Rachel Weisz)
|Ariel by Dina Goldstein (Fallen Princesses)
by Annie Leibovitz
|Cinderella by Dina Goldstein (Fallen Princesses)|
Dina Goldstein’s photographs serve just that purpose – and well. What a force to counteract the ever-so-influential princess cartoons children are exposed to.
|Belle by Dina Goldstein (Fallen Princesses)|
|Pocahontas by Dina Goldstein (Fallen Princesses)
by Annie Leibovitz (Jessica Biel as Pocahontas)
The Disney Princesses
Do well in school, young ladies!!!
Consequently, I feel compelled to give gifts to my gadget “friends” this holiday…(Well, ok…perhaps these are actually gifts to myself).
In any case, here are some super adorable tech gadget accessories I discovered online.
What’s your laptop wearing today?
|I think he’s saying, “I glow in the dark!”|
|Pink Leather Laptop Sleeve|
|Laptop Sleeve (currently wearing in Bronze leather)|
you’ve won him over.
I congratulate you, I’d like to remind you that the toughest is yet to come –
winning over his parents, his siblings and their family pets.
you may have done a great job planning for the holidays by buying greeting
cards and presents six months ahead of time, the invitation to meet his family
may be something you didn’t anticipate when scheduling 2011 back in 2010.
are three questions that’ll help you prepare for this nerve-racking invitation:
with all social gathering events, I like to ponder the following three
questions when deciding what to wear, what to bring and other small details
that are key to making the best possible impression of yourself.
are you there?
other words, being confident in who you are in the face of possible rejection
can be tough. Regardless of what discomfort this might present, it’s important
to stand up for who you truly are.
his parents isn’t your cue to turn into his mother’s vision of the perfect
woman for her son. Let go of your strategy to channel Betty Crocker and develop
a passion for collecting antique cat figurines by December. This plan is bound
to lead to disaster.
is more impressive than a woman who is confident and comfortable in her own
skin and who handles conversations with diplomacy and grace.
his mother’s disappointed you’re not Betty Crocker, she’ll get over it if her
son’s happy and enjoying himself with you.
you meeting his family at their cozy home down South or at a fancy extravaganza
at their neighborhood’s 75th annual holiday gala? Either way, keep
in mind the occasion’s level of formality as well as the weather (in case
you’re traveling to a region you’ve never been before). It will not impress
anyone if you’re wearing your bedazzled cocktail dress to the Scrabble game
with close family and neighbors after holiday dinner. Obviously, a cozy sweater
and casual pants would be more ideal when playing with the family dog and your
date’s adorable nieces and nephews.
on the side of practicality first, then decide how to express your awesome
are you there?
Why are you meeting his family? Are you there to learn more about how your new
boyfriend was brought up? Are you there to get to know him a little better? Or,
are you there because you’ve decided that this is an audition for an upcoming
role as their daughter-in-law? If you think a nice holiday with his fam is an
audition, don’t go.
repeat: don’t go.
trip is more about him than it is about you. Get to know his family. Get to
know him. Try and get an understanding of why he prefers pancakes to French
toast and bond with him. This isn’t your opportunity to show off your
baton-twirling act. This is your opportunity to connect with others and to show
that you’re honored to have been invited to share the holidays with their
family. What wins people over? No. Not your fancy Prada purse. You’re not going
to mingle with Bruno at the Milan fashion show (are you?).
are won over when you care about their interests and are considerate of their
needs. Talk about your Prada purse another time.
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Roseanna’s aesthetic is simple, clean, restrained femininity. Her pastel color schemes and collection of vintage household items is an elegant interpretation of Anthropologie’s “country chic”.
As you know, we, too, love making stationery, lots of white-space in our design layout, vintage items, and many other things Sepia Smiles finds ‘pretty’…
I have junk in my living room, in storage, in boxes, in my closet, in other people’s homes, …(I’ll stop here as this list could take me a while to write).
A lot of the “junk” are neatly packed inside boxes as a result of having to move out of my apartment unexpectedly and without a plan. I never wanted to go through the ordeal of packing and moving out/moving in ever again after that experience. And, for almost a year, I left a lot of my belongings packed away inside neatly-labled boxes stacked on one another like a Tetris game.
This past weekend, my new roommate and I curiously unpacked one of the boxes labeled “decor”. Since I hadn’t seen the items inside the box in a while, I decided they’re obviously of no significance. Afterall, I’ve been living my life without needing to access these “insignificant” things immediately.
We opened the box…
I’ve been living a “gypsy lifestyle” since I moved out of my Hancock Park apartment last Fall.
This means, I tow around most items I need or think I need at all times in a shopping cart (just kidding). I have my library and closet and vanity in tow scattered about in the backseat of my car, in my monogramed Longchamp bag, in vintage LV bags, in Paper Source shopping bags, in beautifully-printed Stephanie Johnson toiletry bags, and other seemingly useful containers that are no match for the gypsy lifesyle.
|glazed green vase|
|1 of 2 glazed turquoise bud vases|
But, as I sat there with my big ambition carefully unpacking each delicate item after delicate item, I started to remember why I kept these items instead of my Frye boots and all the other expensive things I threw away when I moved out…
…each piece made my home more…
|minature antique bicycle, lacquered stationery box, little clock.|
These items aren’t “extraneous” at all. They’re special and that’s exactly why I’ve kept them instead of the five purses I sold for $5 bucks a piece. There’s something fantastic about being in your own space surrounded by a collection of items that make you smile.
Somehow, these small reminders of who you are – outside of your crafted self-image and social “armor” or facade – helps the loooooong day melt away. Sure, I could get a massage or do yoga, but having a room’s ambience to one’s exact specifications can do wonders for the soul.
|antique container, 2 blue bud vases, ceramic postage stamp box.|
Each item was hand-picked and carefully considered. Sometimes visiting the store more than twice before making the purchase. These weren’t impulse buys…
|red container with feet + gold gingo leaf letter-opener|
Actually, finding each piece at different times, then putting them together in the same space one by one, and somehow making them all connect and contribute to creating just the right “mood”, was an adventure in itself.