If you ask people who’ve met me in passing somewhere out in the scene, you might hear my personality described as “dramatic”, “loves attention”, “loves the limelight”, etc…
Metropolis II (Installation by Chris Burden @LACMA).
I’ve always been a little bit, shall we say,
irrational, devoted when it comes to my Sunnies. Like certain women from Texas who have a thing for bouffants, I’ve always believed that bigger is better. Or, in the words of Magdalena de la Cruz, the protagonist of my novel So L.A. “As long as you have a good purse and big enough sunglasses you can get away with anything in Los Angeles.”
Case in point? See “Post Exhibit A” (archived by my mother) wherein I rock a gingham chambray jumper and fashion a pair of red sunglasses in perfect “Sunnies-Quite-Possibly-Bigger-than-my-Face” style. I was maybe two.
Come to think of it, it could be said that the best part about Los Angeles is the fact that you can wear Sunnies anywhere, anytime, always. It matters not that you’re indoors. Nor does it matter that it’s after dark. I’m going out on a glamor limb here, dangling dangerously from a date palm tree, but I’m going to admit that in addition to sporting Sunnies to match my dress, I may even have sunglasses for different qualities of light. I mean, doesn’t everyone?
My best pair of Sunnies, by far, were a vintage pair of off-white Dior glasses (see “Post Exhibit B”). They were HUGE in the best possible way. And they died a tragic death in the hands of my daughter, who, when she was two, went on a spiteful sunglass busting bender. She just snapped every pair she could find: crack, pop, burst, like a wishbone the week after Thanksgiving. I was devastated. In fact, I still am.
In the hours after, when I was in shock and unveiled disbelief, I rushed out of the house with my puffy eyes exposed and drove them to three (yes I said three) certified optometrists, an ophthalmologist, a jeweler and a patio-glass repair man (that was when I was really desperate) but all six told me the same thing: Ma’am I’m sorry but…
Even still I couldn’t part with them. I keep the left “arm” as well as the right “three-quarters” of these glasses (of these tinted, broken dreams) on my desk as a reminder of who I used to be. They are joined by four other, less meaningful pairs, that were also busted by the baby. It’s a variable vintage sunglasses graveyard.
My current (favorite) Sunnies are newer and slightly smaller (not by choice) and much less fabulous, but in quintessential Didion fashion, they are about three-and-one-half inches round and a muted grey (perhaps because I am still in mourning?)
I’m often cut off mid-sentence and asked, “But..what do you wanna do?”.
Fair enough question.
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It isn’t as if I responsibly mapped out my professional trajectory like I was taught to do…Instead, I followed my heart (whatever that means) and learned important lessons along the way. But, that doesn’t help clarify things, does it?
How silly was I to add “passion” to the bulletpoints on my resume? The entire Dalek population would explode attempting to grasp this concept.
That said, using a wordcloud tool has failed to capture the essence of the value I can add to any organization – instinct, experience, heart, loyalty, intuition, perserverance, empathy, connection, et al…These terms are not trending on LinkedIn — Google alerts would’ve informed me, and I just checked.
So, since my unorthodox list of accomplishments are invisible to search engines (and, incomprehensible to Daleks), I decided to explicity define “success” for myself as a courtesy to my new friends and acquaintances.
Here is what my point B looks like:
*You’re having your A.M. coffee while reading about the biggest networking event of the year on a page in the WSJ.
(Blurb for one of many well-known international events)
The text reads:
Notable Speakers include:
Abby Joseph Cohen one of the most respected figures in investing circles and is the chief US investment strategist for Goldman Sachs Group, Inc.
Anna Wintour, Editor-in-Chief, Vogue
Carrie Fisher, Actress best known as Princess Leia
Sarah Blakely, CEO & Founder, Spanx
Genevieve Bos, Founding Publisher, Pink Magazine
Sheila Kahanek, former Accountant, Enron.
I hope that helped clarify some things for you.
Have a great weekend!!!
*end scene;P(SPOILER: To be continued…)
“The beauty [of Los Angeles] is the beauty of letting things go; letting go of where you came from; letting go of old lessons; letting go of what you want for what you are, or what you are for what you want; letting go of so much—and that is a hard beauty to love.”—Michael Ventura, “Grand Illusion”Letters at 3 AM: Reports on Endarkenment
Bridget is a friend, mentor, inspiration, advisor, twitter follower, confidante, et cetera…
I learned a lot about self-acceptance from Bridget’s writing advice during my years as an undgrad (and afterwards).
As it turns out, writers view words as instruments by which individuals connect to others. I learned that writing can be formatted in any way as long as the message and the spirit of the message are successfully transported to another — carrying with it the essence of its source.
Writing is a vehicle.
And, unlike perfectly formatted bullets on a memo, the musings of a good writer isn’t only concerned with getting you to point B –– she wants to take you on a ride!!!
Congrats on your beautiful book, B. And, thanks for the ride.
So you still think style’s just a bunch of fluff?
Katy Perry’s photographs by Jannson in Interview mag beg to differ.
When you’re in the media’s eye and every step you take is scrutinized, publicized and tweeted, it’s tough to create a brand without your audience’s approval and agreement. It could be even harder to break out of your teeny-bopper persona … unless you’ve got the right tools and strategy to to make your desired new message clear.
The photographs of Katy Perry below successfully reposition the celebrity and communicates a clear message. What’s the message???
Take me seriously; I’m a talented and professional performer.
(Blk/Wht Photography by MIKAEL JANSSON)
|“Cool, Determined and Under 30” (via Inc. magazine)|
Tonight we met inspiring local entrepreneurs who create and sell handmade goods via their online store on Etsy. These Los Angeles creatives utilize technology and the platform provided by Etsy to lead teams of like-minded sellers.
We don’t necessarily think about the handmade goods seller when the word “entrepreneur” is used, however, these small business owners aren’t sitting around bedazzling for nothing — they make it rain!
Stay tuned for more feedback and some background on the L.A. – based Etsy Entrepreneurs in an upcoming post!
You were known as a focused player who wasn’t very personable. Did that hurt your career?
Well, it had a negative effect on how I was portrayed. But I had no one to explain the value of public relations to me. When I was in college, there was such an intense demand from the press that John Wooden said they couldn’t talk to me at all. So that was what I took for normal going into the NBA. Being at the top of my game and working as hard as I could for the people who employed me—that was my primary focus, and everything else was secondary. So I didn’t always respond to social situations in a pleasant way. When it came to talking to people, I was kind of reserved. But shyness is something you have to overcome. Later in my career, I started doing a lot better relating to fans and talking to the media. I think that’s continued to improve in my retirement.
Excellent interview with Kareem Abdul-Jabbar and Harvard Business Review. This interview highlights elements of success and transcends industries beyond sports. We continue to explore lessons from athletes on tonight’s #3PChat with @RickardonSports. Please follow and ask questions using “#3PCwin”. Thank you.
This interview discusses:
- Why PR matters in addition to your team’s results.
- What role managers play in development.
- Being multi-dimensional
- How to play with Magic.
- How being described as “difficult” hurts your game.
- Improvement in general.
- Being accessible.
- How to market and sell yourself.
- Et cetera…
We highly recommend this interview with Kareem as he reflects on his trajectory as he evolved from a great player to a winning player on and off court:
Can love improve mental and physical health and aid in our response to pain?
Can love make us wiser?
Included in this post is a link to an interesting piece by Diane Ackerman on a new field in science, interpersonal neurobiology (in other words, the science of relationships).
The fundamental idea of interpersonal neurobiology draws its vigor from one of the great discoveries of our era: that the brain is constantly rewiring itself based on daily life.
What we pay most attention to defines who we are — physically altering our brains…
The article argues that how one chooses to spend the hours in our lives literally shapes our physical selves.
When I worked full time in corporate America, I was always polished and groomed at the office. I worked in an environment where presentation and details made a huge impact on the perception of one’s sense of professionalism.
That said, it was always so refreshing to become “un-pretty” during weekends.
What does it mean to be “un-pretty”? First, let’s take a look at what “pretty” means:
I define ‘pretty’ as being polite, pleasant and polished. “Pretty” is the very essence of being a lady — coiffed hair, a manicure, a poise presentation, warm, approachable and socially graceful. (Think of a house party’s hostess – friendly and sociable). Someone “pretty” offers you coffee and cookies when you visit their homes. The “pretty” girl tells you how great you look (to simplify the concept); she is concerned about whether or not you’re comfortable and considers what your preferences are.
When I use the term “un-pretty”, I’m not implying that I made an effort to look unattractive (although, a lot of times, this was the case). What I mean is, my style of presentation was less ladylike and lacked the polish and niceties one would expect from a pageant-trained woman.
How does one achieve a “pretty” look?
Feminine make up highlighting the shape of one’s eyes + full lips + groomed brows and hairstyle + polished ready-to-face-the-camera style + tailored and put-togehter – any piece of hair out of place
I love the “un-pretty” side of my closet as much as the polished and tailored pieces I own. It’s necessary, at times, to wear wrinkled shirts, athletic shoes, cotton tees and unruly hair. I say this because I think it’s an advantage to be comfortable even without having to project the socially-constructed version of “girl”. You can be attractive in various ways — wearing pearls and a tiara or sneakers and a baseball cap.
To me, an un-pretty style can convey the gritty sexiness of Marlon Brando’s Stanley Kowalski.
Un-pretty means dressing with style without having to make a lot of effort — in So Cal this laid-back style is one that many non- L.A. natives try very hard to emulate. It’s the confidence in one’s self without having to look like a doll who took two hours to apply make up.
It’s an image that actors and models (who spend their working days in full make-up) naturally have on their days off. A look that conveys the understanding that if they wanted to, they could very well shave their scruff and be as pretty as they come. The “unpretty” girl doesn’t necessarily say ‘please’ or ‘thank you’ in a bubbly voice. She may give you a smirk or a nod of acknowledgement if she’s pleased with you.
Simplified, the “unpretty” girl asks you for a smoke without taking into consideration whether or not you approve of her smoking. She is not as self-conscious as her socially-graceful “pretty” girl counterpart.
How does one achieve this un-pretty too-cool-to-care style?
“undone hair” + cotton tee + element of relaxed or athletic gear – bubbly persona – string of pearls – “matchy-matchy” accessories + grit + attitude…
Beautiful Magdalena de la Cruz breezed through Berkeley and built an empire selling designer water. She’d never felt awkward or unattractive… until she moved to Los Angeles. In L.A. where “everything smells like acetone and Errol Flynn” Magdalena attempts to reinvent herself as a geographically appropriate bombshell—with rhinestones, silicone and gin—as she seeks an escape from her unraveling marriage and the traumatic death of her younger brother, Junah.
Magdalena’s Los Angeles is glitzy and glamorous but also a landscape of the absurd. Her languidly lyrical voice provides a travel guide for a city of make-believe, where even Hollywood insiders feel left out.
“Chuck” – as Will Smith calls her – acknowledges the opportunities she was afforded by those who vouched for her when others thought she was just another pretty face.
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- Meltdown Comics (Hollywood)
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- Landis Gifts (Larchmont)
- Jonathan Wright (Melrose)
- Al Gelato (Beverly Hills)
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- Alpha (Melrose)
- PinkPonies’Shop (etsy.com)
- Pink Ponies Classes (skillshare)
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Thank you for the rockstar treatment…
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I. BEING PUT-TOGETHER AT HOME
I miss writing about office-wear.
I miss wearing office-wear.
If this is your first visit to 3P, I’ll prepare you for what some have called my “vain” side. I’m into wardrobe, shopping and trying to look my best (call me a “girl”). That said, even when I’m at home, I’m somehow more productive when I’ve taken the time to “put myself together. Continuing to “dress for the day” helps keep my priorities in a professional context. Being dressed for business tasks makes sure the television, web, and phone calls don’t distract me from what I need to do that day.
Since my current priorities mostly involve conversations between recruiters and HR people online and by phone, I have to feel comfortable and at ease, without feeling so relaxed I lose my professional sensibility. In other words, bunny slippers are not part of my working-from-home wardrobe. Do you feel like a superstar right when you roll out of bed?
II. STAYING INDOORS
We ask our friend, Adam, how to best avoid the jiggles…(I’m not a fan of point #1)
The lovely American fashion designer was born in California to a Dutch mother and an Indian father.
Wikipedia tells us that the designer got her start by working part-time at a retail store, Contempo Casuals, at the age of 14…Her trajectory spiked exponentially upward from there…
The official YouTube channel for fashion designer Rachel Roy.
Rachel Roy’s designs capture a sense of lady-like glamour with a subtle feminine edge. With knee-length pencil skirts and blouses, the label’s aesthetic catches the eye with a familiar and classic silhouette. However, by combining unusual colors, patterns and fabrics, the lady-like silhouette becomes modern. Cool.
Rachel Roy’s style is one a career-focused young woman can wear with confidence (without having to dress like the boys).
. . .
PPP: Gui! [air kisses on both cheeks]
Gui: Make yourself comfortable. I’m just gonna call my sister back .
Would you like some champagne or white wine?
PPP: No thanks, honey. So, you’ve been busy styling Harris Pilton. Anything interesting you’d like to talk about?
G: I love Harris Pilton. She’s a sweetheart and very private. I’m not at liberty to divulge much else.
3P: Fair enough. What we really want to know are some tips to looking fabulous. You’ve done hair for celebrities, TV show projects, music videos and as well as being the primary personal hair stylist for musicians on tour…For the everyday corporate rockstar who can’t wear a fabulous pink Afro-puff to the office, what are some tips to always looking chic without looking out of place?
1. Get haircuts regularly – Fresh haircuts and color make as big of an impact as a facelift. Think about it. Your hair frames your face. When dark conservative suits create uniformity in the workplace, one’s haircut can subtly convey your own professional brand and individuality.
2. Communicate clearly with your stylist – bring magazine clippings with images of women whose hairstyles you like…it’s important that the model’s face shape, skin tone and hair texture are similar to yours. Don’t expect a stylist to turn your mullet into Slash’s Rockin’ ‘do.
3. Consider your lifestyle when choosing a style – If your daily life involves wearing a construction hat, it’s not practical to ask for a bleached and overly-coiffed ‘do (a la Gwen Stefani) especially if you can’t maintain weekly root touch ups.
3P: Great tips, Gui. Thank you for your expert advice. Xoxoxoxo.
Apparently, some topics on our site are…hmmm..what some would consider “not as fun as could be”.
We asked our professional make-up artist friend, Miss RubyRedRockstar (aka Farah) for her help.
|What a pro. She’s the best.|
RubyRedRockstar (“3R”) is fun, gorgeous and is an award-nominated hair and make-up pro. She is second-generation film and TV industry talent and has years of professional experience as Depratment Head Make Up Artist for prime-time television shows (read: she knows what she’s talking about).
Anyhoo, Farah writes to you, readers, with tips on how to get a pretty sun-kissed So Cal glow.
Hello sexy ladies!
In the olden days it wasn’t considered attractive to have tan skin [insert source here].
Today no man wants to see your “paste-y” ass [replace “ass” with a rated-PG term] in a bikini. But a free ticket to the skin cancer clinic isn’t the only way to be a bronzed goddess — you can achieve the same St. Tropez-vacation glow with self tanners!!!
The latest self-tanners are flawless. Technological and scientific advancement don’t just benefit boring industries like farming and the energy sector — they also benefit the gorgeous!!!
|(Farah in glasses = very smart. Notice her thinking as she looks to the camera during a soliloquy)|
Lindsay Lohan may like her self tanner so orange it matches her fire crotch, but YOU don’t have to. (Nor do you have to have to be the smelly kid no one wants to sit next to).
Although there are cheaper options available, the benefits from these KS tan towels make the additional cost worth it. One, they have no odor. Second, their result is a natural and pretty sun-kissed color. And, last, the tan lasts at least five days!!!
|Bronzed babes (Farah on the right)|
Here’s some pointers on how to apply the product to produce picture-perfect-pretty results:
1. lather your body with an emollient moisturizer paying special attention to your knees, hands, and feet.
2. apply the self-tanner using your “tan towel”to your chest, then your neck.
(Note: you can use it on your moisturized face and the tan is subtle and beautiful)
**The trick with any self tanner is rubbing the same places over and over ad nauseam to prevent streaking.
3. Apply the product around your neck and ears (avoiding your hairline)
4. When you get to your hands, either stop at wrists or make a tight fist and just do the top of the hands before the knuckles.
5. Apply the same principle above to apply the self-tanner around the feet, stoping before you reach your toes.
6. Apply product to your knees rubbing vigorously over and over (make sure your knees are bent).
**Try to reserve different sections of the tan towel for certain areas. This will guarantee one towel tans the whole body.**
7. Continue to apply the solution to the same spots. Lift your arms and make sure you get the underside of your forearms and upper arms.
The Kate Sommerville Tan Towels dry quickly so you can dress almost immediately.
Be SURE to wash the palms of your hands really well after.
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|Thank you, Miss Farah.|
Yet strangely, Los Angeles is not a town for high fashion, for $5,000
head-to-toe designer outfits. “We’re behind a little,” Cota admits. “Or
we don’t pay attention. Fashion Week in L.A. is not the strongest. It’s
not a priority.”
We disagree wholeheartedly.
There are many [mainstream] styles distinctly “L.A.” (that is, styles organically-raised by subcultures “born” in our town). Those who contributed to the article seem to have been too busy to watch L.A. “looks” go from underground to boutique to mainstream Wal-Mart.
In this case, the quote above was coming from the perspective of a designer/business-owner who is more likely speaking to the popularity of fashion and style in terms of business revenue. “Style” in L.A. doesn’t always generate revenue for store-owners because not all L.A. socialites (unlike their East Coast counterparts) necessarily feel required to carry luxury-brand handbags to gain admission into exclusive social circles. Some do. However, others use some form of “cultural and/or social currency” (more on this topic of “cool” later) to “belong”. It’s less likely for an L.A. socialite to be dismissed for not having blood ties to Andrew Carnegie. Thus, display of “old money” is less relevant to become popular in this town.
That doesn’t mean “L.A. is behind”, Mr. Cota. It just means we can use many alternatives to luxury brand clothing and accessories to demonstrate to others just how “cool” we are.
There’s certainly a backlash from all the unkempt and boho looks
perpetuated by non-L.A. folk which drive more and more Los Angeles
denizens to adopt tailored and manicured self-images just to counter the
stupidity of wearing $500-dollar printed Hanes cotton Tees marketed as
“vintage”.L.A./So Cal is the birthplace of many now-mainstream-trends. Love ’em or hate ’em, here are a few distinct “L.A. styles” (among many others):1) Chucks – “..The Mexican kids doing the…rockabily thing…” you
mention in your article above helped bring popularity to Converse’s
Chuck Taylors. Once only worn by “greasers”, these ‘played-out’ shoes
(in various patterns and flavors sold by shark-y Nordstrom salesfolk)
seen even on midwestern homecoming queen L.A. transplants were
popularized, if not born, here.2) Graffiti prints – popularized
by Stussy, a retail brand which originated in the 80’s from Laguna Beach
became universally popular for its graffiti-inspired shirts. This
version of “cool” or “urban” – incorporating nuances from
skaters/surfers – was quite distinct from the NYC’s definition of
“urban” (read: hip-hop). The grafffiti/”bombing” style print was
exclusive to “L.A. identity” during the 90’s.
3) Terry cloth
loungewear (a la Juicy Couture) – (image below) as hideous as they are (terry cloth
tracksuits + Ugg Boot combos) were born and raised in So Cal (read:
please blame Orange County). I went to USC and my girlfriends and I had nightmares about velour tracksuits even years after college (Thanks, Greek Row). I’m not proud of the “I’m-gonna-wear-my-GOOD-sweats” look, however, it is
distinctly “L.A.” (if by “L.A.” you mean trends not associated with NYC
or other large metropolitan cities).
trust-fund-bohemian-types who labor to achieve the “…nonconspicuous
are the most unoriginal, self-righteous judgemental L.A.
transplant-types. (Totally non-sequitir, but I needed to vent).
the girl who conspicuously consumes (and isn’t ashamed of it)
|the worst gang in Los Angeles|
- Michael Stars and the comfortable yet fashionably sexy tee (no smelly bohos here).
- Baywatch and the tan, fit and “shapely” physique (medically-enhanced).
Chuck Taylor All-Stars: the official shoes of the ’84 Los Angeles Olympics
i write about this to point out how easily one can create various “looks” starting with “basic pieces”. coming straight from a corporate setting, i walked into the store wearing: a silk cami + sweater, black slacks, pearls, and a pair of black pumps. by updating my top (read: throwing something over my cami), i created various styles…with just one piece.
OUR PLAN: Achieve an athletic and graceful dancer’s physique (a la Sophia Boutella)
Dancers seem to have the perfect combination of fluidity, grace and strength. To appear graceful in one’s clothes yet feel confident and able to pack a mighty punch gives a girl a sort of edge noticeable in her walk.
|note: John Mayer not included|
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