Metropolis II (Installation by Chris Burden @LACMA).
I’m often cut off mid-sentence and asked, “But..what do you wanna do?”.
Fair enough question.
(SPOILER: There are no images in this post)
It isn’t as if I responsibly mapped out my professional trajectory like I was taught to do…Instead, I followed my heart (whatever that means) and learned important lessons along the way. But, that doesn’t help clarify things, does it?
How silly was I to add “passion” to the bulletpoints on my resume? The entire Dalek population would explode attempting to grasp this concept.
That said, using a wordcloud tool has failed to capture the essence of the value I can add to any organization – instinct, experience, heart, loyalty, intuition, perserverance, empathy, connection, et al…These terms are not trending on LinkedIn — Google alerts would’ve informed me, and I just checked.
So, since my unorthodox list of accomplishments are invisible to search engines (and, incomprehensible to Daleks), I decided to explicity define “success” for myself as a courtesy to my new friends and acquaintances.
Here is what my point B looks like:
*You’re having your A.M. coffee while reading about the biggest networking event of the year on a page in the WSJ.
(Blurb for one of many well-known international events)
The text reads:
Notable Speakers include:
Abby Joseph Cohen one of the most respected figures in investing circles and is the chief US investment strategist for Goldman Sachs Group, Inc.
Anna Wintour, Editor-in-Chief, Vogue
Carrie Fisher, Actress best known as Princess Leia
Sarah Blakely, CEO & Founder, Spanx
Genevieve Bos, Founding Publisher, Pink Magazine
Sheila Kahanek, former Accountant, Enron.
I hope that helped clarify some things for you.
Have a great weekend!!!
*end scene;P(SPOILER: To be continued…)
Bridget is a friend, mentor, inspiration, advisor, twitter follower, confidante, et cetera…
I learned a lot about self-acceptance from Bridget’s writing advice during my years as an undgrad (and afterwards).
As it turns out, writers view words as instruments by which individuals connect to others. I learned that writing can be formatted in any way as long as the message and the spirit of the message are successfully transported to another — carrying with it the essence of its source.
Writing is a vehicle.
And, unlike perfectly formatted bullets on a memo, the musings of a good writer isn’t only concerned with getting you to point B –– she wants to take you on a ride!!!
Congrats on your beautiful book, B. And, thanks for the ride.
So you still think style’s just a bunch of fluff?
Katy Perry’s photographs by Jannson in Interview mag beg to differ.
When you’re in the media’s eye and every step you take is scrutinized, publicized and tweeted, it’s tough to create a brand without your audience’s approval and agreement. It could be even harder to break out of your teeny-bopper persona … unless you’ve got the right tools and strategy to to make your desired new message clear.
The photographs of Katy Perry below successfully reposition the celebrity and communicates a clear message. What’s the message???
Take me seriously; I’m a talented and professional performer.
(Blk/Wht Photography by MIKAEL JANSSON)
Look at the last thing you bought, what problem did it solve, what benefit did you buy?
— Ronald Skelton (@ronaldskelton) May 6, 2012
How much thought do we put into where we spend our time, energy and money? Do you consider how the product in your shopping basket got to your hand? How was it manufactured? Whose idea was it to create this? What was intended when the decision to produce the product was made?
Let us know — do you think it matters???
We encourage you to pause and think about what message you’re helping create each time you make a purchase or decision. What you buy makes a bigger statement than you think — it supports ideas, practices and institutions. Be smart. Choose wisely.
Thanks for stopping by.
All the best,
Can a high-ranking woman official expect respect from male counterparts and direct reports while carrying a baby and a D&G bag?
Spain says ‘yes’. This is not new news, but a great example that illustrates how to execute balance while serving as a high-ranking political official:
When Spanish Prime Minister José Luis Rodríguez Zapatero’s new cabinet members took their oath of office before King Juan Carlos on Monday, one of them, the recently-appointed Defense Minister, stood out from the rest. Literally. Carme Chacón, 37, is not only the first woman to head Spain’s armed forces. She is also seven months pregnant.
Article take from Time.com
Some consider the art of dressing, fashion and styling as a superfluous use of one’s time and energy. They’re right. Fashion can be overthought and when combined with the forces of retail marketing, fashion can result in addiction to consumption.
The Hollywood cliché of the teenage girl’s obsession with her image, shopping with her friends and becoming an over-accessorized one dimensional version of her true potential stems from a very real power fashion magazines, shows and other media have on our values. It can be a limiting existence to live life pursuing an impossible opportunity to become another Kardashian sister.
However, if taken seriously without being obsessively vain, the art of dressing becomes a tool for the sophisticated individual. Fashion – or, in the case of our topic, dressing – is akin to a product’s packaging in that it serves several important roles.
We liken the importance of dressing to the importance of a container; both are extensions of the product itself and both help create a product’s appeal, ensure its preservation, and operates as a means of communication between the brand and its target market.
If you open most books about packaging, you’ll learn that an effective package provides a product with the following:
As a professional possessing valuable skills and talent to offer the world you, too, are a product that needs to be packaged appropriately to appeal to the audience you aim to reach.
Think about it. If a product’s packaging didn’t accurately reflect its contents, how would the buyer react upon discovering that the delicious marshmallows he brought home from the store were instead a package of raw tofu???
Being inappropriately ‘packaged’ will result in disappointments.
Proper Packaging: clothing that serves its purpose
So, how exactly do we package ourselves? Glad you asked.
Dressing up or down (or not at all) can be fun. However, when functioning in society, there are responsibilities we must honor before fulfilling our desire to amuse ourselves and do whatever we’d like without regard for rules.
Like a product’s container, our clothing must serve its primary functions before it acts as an extension of our individuality and brand’s message. Typography is useless on a box that doesn’t properly secure the eggs on its way to your kitchen from the grocery store.
In other words your clothes have responsibilites. Your clothing need to fulfill their responsibilities before they can scream, “Louis Vuitton!”.
As a courtesy, we’ve developed a guideline in the form of a checklist to make sure your outfit is at the very least serving its primary purpose.
1. Containment – Does it sufficiently contain and cover its contents?
2. Protection – Is your outfit appropriate for the environment, weather, social context you’ll be wearing it to? (i.e. flip flops outdoors during a snowstorm, etc…)
3. Convenience – Does your clothing allow you to move comfortably and with ease? Does it fit you properly? Will you have difficulty performing at your optimum level in these clothes?
4. Information – What message does your clothing communicate to society as a whole?
5. Marketing – Are you wearing any symbols or styles that will connect with the specific group you wish to appeal to? Will your market be attracted to you given how you are presented?
(To be continued…)
When I worked full time in corporate America, I was always polished and groomed at the office. I worked in an environment where presentation and details made a huge impact on the perception of one’s sense of professionalism.
That said, it was always so refreshing to become “un-pretty” during weekends.
What does it mean to be “un-pretty”? First, let’s take a look at what “pretty” means:
I define ‘pretty’ as being polite, pleasant and polished. “Pretty” is the very essence of being a lady — coiffed hair, a manicure, a poise presentation, warm, approachable and socially graceful. (Think of a house party’s hostess – friendly and sociable). Someone “pretty” offers you coffee and cookies when you visit their homes. The “pretty” girl tells you how great you look (to simplify the concept); she is concerned about whether or not you’re comfortable and considers what your preferences are.
When I use the term “un-pretty”, I’m not implying that I made an effort to look unattractive (although, a lot of times, this was the case). What I mean is, my style of presentation was less ladylike and lacked the polish and niceties one would expect from a pageant-trained woman.
How does one achieve a “pretty” look?
Feminine make up highlighting the shape of one’s eyes + full lips + groomed brows and hairstyle + polished ready-to-face-the-camera style + tailored and put-togehter – any piece of hair out of place
I love the “un-pretty” side of my closet as much as the polished and tailored pieces I own. It’s necessary, at times, to wear wrinkled shirts, athletic shoes, cotton tees and unruly hair. I say this because I think it’s an advantage to be comfortable even without having to project the socially-constructed version of “girl”. You can be attractive in various ways — wearing pearls and a tiara or sneakers and a baseball cap.
To me, an un-pretty style can convey the gritty sexiness of Marlon Brando’s Stanley Kowalski.
Un-pretty means dressing with style without having to make a lot of effort — in So Cal this laid-back style is one that many non- L.A. natives try very hard to emulate. It’s the confidence in one’s self without having to look like a doll who took two hours to apply make up.
It’s an image that actors and models (who spend their working days in full make-up) naturally have on their days off. A look that conveys the understanding that if they wanted to, they could very well shave their scruff and be as pretty as they come. The “unpretty” girl doesn’t necessarily say ‘please’ or ‘thank you’ in a bubbly voice. She may give you a smirk or a nod of acknowledgement if she’s pleased with you.
Simplified, the “unpretty” girl asks you for a smoke without taking into consideration whether or not you approve of her smoking. She is not as self-conscious as her socially-graceful “pretty” girl counterpart.
How does one achieve this un-pretty too-cool-to-care style?
“undone hair” + cotton tee + element of relaxed or athletic gear – bubbly persona – string of pearls – “matchy-matchy” accessories + grit + attitude…
Glossy Magazine Issue 7…
– Gwen Stefani
This quote speaks to how essential image is for a person’s success. Gwen Stefani’s style and character is just as much a part of her identity as her musical talent. It wouldn’t be the same if she showed up to “work” lazily dressed in frumpy clothes. That’s not what her boss (fans) pays her for.
In a similar way, professionals are expected to dress according to what their business, industry, leaders, clients, expect of them. It’s part of your identity as a responsible and successful pro.
Do you agree?
One way I keep myself inspired is with Pinterest’s visual pin boards.
I find that seeing images and images of possibilities that could result from my hard work helps get my motivation back. See for yourself!
|classic trousers + blouse|
|Black + grey pumps|
What inspires your career wardrobe style?
For more images from my ever-growing list…visit PinkPoniesPins on Pinterest.
More on professional wear: Harper Bazaar’s How to Dress for Success article
I took care to make sure the items on my desk absolutely needed: Cordless keypad, mouse, notebook, phone and lamp. I also had one ceramic bud vase for the occasional flower I’d bring to the office with me to remind me of my balcony garden.
Overall, my work-space was devoid of my outside-of-work personality – which is quite different from my office at home.
OFFICE AT HOME:
Although I tote around my macbook and work anywhere and in every coffeeshop in the city, my office at home is mainly for thoughtful hand-written notes and a space to read…
|golds, ambers, warm colors…|
|a beautiful and comfortable chair is essential.|
antique pencils, modern lighting, notebook, mirror (of course)…
…piggy bank, make up brush, pens, postage, clock…
|sentimental items of significance|
…cuban cigar box filled with drawing supplies (charcoal pencils, erasers, leather notebook)…
…colored pens for highlighting…
I’m curious about your workspace…What do you keep on your desk at the office? What does it say about you? Is it similar to your office space at work?
– Meg (“meg dot email”)
influenced by my mother.
twist of irony my generation feels compelled to add when they wear classic styles today…subtly mocking
a previous generation known for dainty manners and strings of white pearls.
silhouettes and she wore it like she meant it…
aware that they were in the presence of a lady. And, to those who knew of her
her self-made success, it was understood that she ran her company with the
graceful strength of a savvy woman.
– pencil skirts, gold bangles, diamond studs and fancy high-heeled shoes. I
adore tailored sheath dresses, A-line skirts and silk blouses. The similarities
between my office style and my mother’s professional wear wasn’t apparent to me
until very recently when I discovered a dusty old photograph from childhood –
there I was in my Catholic school uniform walking on stage to receive an
academic award of some sort wearing bangles too big for my tiny forearms. In
the background was my mom in a classic yet angular A-line dress with geometric
patterns proudly walking with me…When I returned back to the
“present”, I realized that I own and wear a dress with the same
patterns, the same color, a similar silhouette in my own fancy shoes. I
continue to discover as I continue to find old photographs that I wear exactly
the same styles my mother used to wear when she was a young mother and business
woman in her early 20s.
“Chuck” – as Will Smith calls her – acknowledges the opportunities she was afforded by those who vouched for her when others thought she was just another pretty face.
Consequently, I feel compelled to give gifts to my gadget “friends” this holiday…(Well, ok…perhaps these are actually gifts to myself).
In any case, here are some super adorable tech gadget accessories I discovered online.
What’s your laptop wearing today?
|I think he’s saying, “I glow in the dark!”|
|Pink Leather Laptop Sleeve|
|Laptop Sleeve (currently wearing in Bronze leather)|
Thank you for the rockstar treatment…
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for a hip etiquette expert? (Asked by @etiquetteexpert Jacqueline Whitmore)
graceful. She epitomizes grace and
manners as well as entrepreneurial success. The thought
of giving her my thoughts on what shoes to wear was one I couldn’t even dream of considering.
I. First, I
considered what [little] I know about her style as well as her professionalresponsibilities as an etiquette expert.
sets an example. She leads subtly
is busy and efficient, yet seems to do everything effortlessly and with grace.
is appropriately dressed and polished for many social events occurring back to
back to back.
is au courant, festive, attractive and engaging. At the same time however, she
is conscientious about drawing too much attention to herself.
is always courteous and honors tradition but is never ever outdated.
her posture and gait with uncomfortable shoes is unacceptable.
must continue making big strides with perfectly put-together ensembles.
that align with @etiquetteexpert’s image in aesthetic, ladylike manners and
choice was Kate Spade.
Suggestion: heels (or flats) in colors that add wit to understated classics.
Suggestion: Rich colors, soft leather, and a hint of Old World craftsmanship that convey refined taste and gravitas.
There are effective ways to convey success and professionalism without looking like a contestant on The Apprentice.
Suggestion: Festive, fun and quality footwear that can dazzle the crowd without being the loudest one in the room.
Images 5 and 6 are perfect for holiday get-togethers with your social circle. The silhouettes are ladylike and feminine without being outdated. It’s beautiful to be sentimental. Balance your 1950’s references with pieces from our time period. As I mentioned, Kate Spade does this with wit and taste. Remember: too many of grandma’s antiquated heirloom pieces can be reminiscent of mothballs instead of nostalgia.
Overall, our Etiquette Expert will always be the paragon of class and good taste. She’s a delightful example of how to reach success with style….in fancy, high-heeled shoes!
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