We’re looking forward to co-hosting tonight’s #BEaLEADER Twitterchat as @PrPinkPonies/@PrettyPinkPro and our networks from Meetup.com, Etsy, USC et al…
You were known as a focused player who wasn’t very personable. Did that hurt your career?
Well, it had a negative effect on how I was portrayed. But I had no one to explain the value of public relations to me. When I was in college, there was such an intense demand from the press that John Wooden said they couldn’t talk to me at all. So that was what I took for normal going into the NBA. Being at the top of my game and working as hard as I could for the people who employed me—that was my primary focus, and everything else was secondary. So I didn’t always respond to social situations in a pleasant way. When it came to talking to people, I was kind of reserved. But shyness is something you have to overcome. Later in my career, I started doing a lot better relating to fans and talking to the media. I think that’s continued to improve in my retirement.
Excellent interview with Kareem Abdul-Jabbar and Harvard Business Review. This interview highlights elements of success and transcends industries beyond sports. We continue to explore lessons from athletes on tonight’s #3PChat with @RickardonSports. Please follow and ask questions using “#3PCwin”. Thank you.
This interview discusses:
- Why PR matters in addition to your team’s results.
- What role managers play in development.
- Being multi-dimensional
- How to play with Magic.
- How being described as “difficult” hurts your game.
- Improvement in general.
- Being accessible.
- How to market and sell yourself.
- Et cetera…
We highly recommend this interview with Kareem as he reflects on his trajectory as he evolved from a great player to a winning player on and off court:
Can a high-ranking woman official expect respect from male counterparts and direct reports while carrying a baby and a D&G bag?
Spain says ‘yes’. This is not new news, but a great example that illustrates how to execute balance while serving as a high-ranking political official:
When Spanish Prime Minister José Luis Rodríguez Zapatero’s new cabinet members took their oath of office before King Juan Carlos on Monday, one of them, the recently-appointed Defense Minister, stood out from the rest. Literally. Carme Chacón, 37, is not only the first woman to head Spain’s armed forces. She is also seven months pregnant.
Article take from Time.com
When I worked full time in corporate America, I was always polished and groomed at the office. I worked in an environment where presentation and details made a huge impact on the perception of one’s sense of professionalism.
That said, it was always so refreshing to become “un-pretty” during weekends.
What does it mean to be “un-pretty”? First, let’s take a look at what “pretty” means:
I define ‘pretty’ as being polite, pleasant and polished. “Pretty” is the very essence of being a lady — coiffed hair, a manicure, a poise presentation, warm, approachable and socially graceful. (Think of a house party’s hostess – friendly and sociable). Someone “pretty” offers you coffee and cookies when you visit their homes. The “pretty” girl tells you how great you look (to simplify the concept); she is concerned about whether or not you’re comfortable and considers what your preferences are.
When I use the term “un-pretty”, I’m not implying that I made an effort to look unattractive (although, a lot of times, this was the case). What I mean is, my style of presentation was less ladylike and lacked the polish and niceties one would expect from a pageant-trained woman.
How does one achieve a “pretty” look?
Feminine make up highlighting the shape of one’s eyes + full lips + groomed brows and hairstyle + polished ready-to-face-the-camera style + tailored and put-togehter – any piece of hair out of place
I love the “un-pretty” side of my closet as much as the polished and tailored pieces I own. It’s necessary, at times, to wear wrinkled shirts, athletic shoes, cotton tees and unruly hair. I say this because I think it’s an advantage to be comfortable even without having to project the socially-constructed version of “girl”. You can be attractive in various ways — wearing pearls and a tiara or sneakers and a baseball cap.
To me, an un-pretty style can convey the gritty sexiness of Marlon Brando’s Stanley Kowalski.
Un-pretty means dressing with style without having to make a lot of effort — in So Cal this laid-back style is one that many non- L.A. natives try very hard to emulate. It’s the confidence in one’s self without having to look like a doll who took two hours to apply make up.
It’s an image that actors and models (who spend their working days in full make-up) naturally have on their days off. A look that conveys the understanding that if they wanted to, they could very well shave their scruff and be as pretty as they come. The “unpretty” girl doesn’t necessarily say ‘please’ or ‘thank you’ in a bubbly voice. She may give you a smirk or a nod of acknowledgement if she’s pleased with you.
Simplified, the “unpretty” girl asks you for a smoke without taking into consideration whether or not you approve of her smoking. She is not as self-conscious as her socially-graceful “pretty” girl counterpart.
How does one achieve this un-pretty too-cool-to-care style?
“undone hair” + cotton tee + element of relaxed or athletic gear – bubbly persona – string of pearls – “matchy-matchy” accessories + grit + attitude…
“Chuck” – as Will Smith calls her – acknowledges the opportunities she was afforded by those who vouched for her when others thought she was just another pretty face.
I finished sending the first batch of holiday cards to friends and family last week. I’ll be sending the second batch tomorrow. This is an exciting time for me. I love wrapping gifts, making cards and most importantly, the holiday and new year cards I purchased at discounted prices throughout the year redeem their value and reward me for my early holiday preparation.
It may seem silly to buy holiday cards in March and April despite their discount, and many naysayers who see me shop probably think to themselves that I’ll only lose the cards before Christmas. But I know better. I feel great about not spending a dime on holiday cards especially because some of the finer paper cost a fortune!
That said, I have to admit I did spend under ten bucks on blank envelopes and blank cards to design a Christmas card for my etsy.com shop.
Since most cards during the holidays (appropriately) look frosty and frigid, I decided to use warm tones this holiday.
you’ve won him over.
I congratulate you, I’d like to remind you that the toughest is yet to come –
winning over his parents, his siblings and their family pets.
you may have done a great job planning for the holidays by buying greeting
cards and presents six months ahead of time, the invitation to meet his family
may be something you didn’t anticipate when scheduling 2011 back in 2010.
are three questions that’ll help you prepare for this nerve-racking invitation:
with all social gathering events, I like to ponder the following three
questions when deciding what to wear, what to bring and other small details
that are key to making the best possible impression of yourself.
are you there?
other words, being confident in who you are in the face of possible rejection
can be tough. Regardless of what discomfort this might present, it’s important
to stand up for who you truly are.
his parents isn’t your cue to turn into his mother’s vision of the perfect
woman for her son. Let go of your strategy to channel Betty Crocker and develop
a passion for collecting antique cat figurines by December. This plan is bound
to lead to disaster.
is more impressive than a woman who is confident and comfortable in her own
skin and who handles conversations with diplomacy and grace.
his mother’s disappointed you’re not Betty Crocker, she’ll get over it if her
son’s happy and enjoying himself with you.
you meeting his family at their cozy home down South or at a fancy extravaganza
at their neighborhood’s 75th annual holiday gala? Either way, keep
in mind the occasion’s level of formality as well as the weather (in case
you’re traveling to a region you’ve never been before). It will not impress
anyone if you’re wearing your bedazzled cocktail dress to the Scrabble game
with close family and neighbors after holiday dinner. Obviously, a cozy sweater
and casual pants would be more ideal when playing with the family dog and your
date’s adorable nieces and nephews.
on the side of practicality first, then decide how to express your awesome
are you there?
Why are you meeting his family? Are you there to learn more about how your new
boyfriend was brought up? Are you there to get to know him a little better? Or,
are you there because you’ve decided that this is an audition for an upcoming
role as their daughter-in-law? If you think a nice holiday with his fam is an
audition, don’t go.
repeat: don’t go.
trip is more about him than it is about you. Get to know his family. Get to
know him. Try and get an understanding of why he prefers pancakes to French
toast and bond with him. This isn’t your opportunity to show off your
baton-twirling act. This is your opportunity to connect with others and to show
that you’re honored to have been invited to share the holidays with their
family. What wins people over? No. Not your fancy Prada purse. You’re not going
to mingle with Bruno at the Milan fashion show (are you?).
are won over when you care about their interests and are considerate of their
needs. Talk about your Prada purse another time.
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for a hip etiquette expert? (Asked by @etiquetteexpert Jacqueline Whitmore)
graceful. She epitomizes grace and
manners as well as entrepreneurial success. The thought
of giving her my thoughts on what shoes to wear was one I couldn’t even dream of considering.
I. First, I
considered what [little] I know about her style as well as her professionalresponsibilities as an etiquette expert.
sets an example. She leads subtly
is busy and efficient, yet seems to do everything effortlessly and with grace.
is appropriately dressed and polished for many social events occurring back to
back to back.
is au courant, festive, attractive and engaging. At the same time however, she
is conscientious about drawing too much attention to herself.
is always courteous and honors tradition but is never ever outdated.
her posture and gait with uncomfortable shoes is unacceptable.
must continue making big strides with perfectly put-together ensembles.
that align with @etiquetteexpert’s image in aesthetic, ladylike manners and
choice was Kate Spade.
Suggestion: heels (or flats) in colors that add wit to understated classics.
Suggestion: Rich colors, soft leather, and a hint of Old World craftsmanship that convey refined taste and gravitas.
There are effective ways to convey success and professionalism without looking like a contestant on The Apprentice.
Suggestion: Festive, fun and quality footwear that can dazzle the crowd without being the loudest one in the room.
Images 5 and 6 are perfect for holiday get-togethers with your social circle. The silhouettes are ladylike and feminine without being outdated. It’s beautiful to be sentimental. Balance your 1950’s references with pieces from our time period. As I mentioned, Kate Spade does this with wit and taste. Remember: too many of grandma’s antiquated heirloom pieces can be reminiscent of mothballs instead of nostalgia.
Overall, our Etiquette Expert will always be the paragon of class and good taste. She’s a delightful example of how to reach success with style….in fancy, high-heeled shoes!
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Below is part of an article published on TheAtlantic.Com
What are your thoughts?
“ Interestingly, I often try and downplay my youth and femininity to prevent the common assumption that my “looks” (and not my intelligence, savvy and professionalism, etc…) helped me with my achievements. There’s nothing more irritating than having my intelligence and other valuable qualities overlooked or minimized because of my femininity.
Older postage stamps that haven’t been cancelled (used) can be combined in value to send mail. For instance, using vintage postage with regular postage is a great way to add character to your mailings.
Choice of notecard design can make a difference, too. For instance, these watercolor fashion sketches by Christian LaCroix (below) are something you can use to write to your “fashion-forward” friends.
|Christian LaCroix Stationery|
|Ponies on Etsy.com|
Crane’s classic customized stationery is understated which makes it perfect correspondence for new acquaintances and those whose personality you’re not yet sure of. It’s a bit more formal and has less personality, however, covers a lot of different situations and a ‘must-have’ in your stationery repertoire.
|Crane’s – personalized for Pretty Pink Ponies LLC|
Hand-written notes aren’t always boring. There are a variety of notecards in the market that suit various needs and personality types. In the spirit of differentiating yourself, send a thoughtful greeting by mail.
Frustrated because some people just don’t “get it”? Put your boxing gloves down. No need to break a nail over some things.
We get it. When we’re busy and under a lot of stress, we get into tons of petty fights with others. Since this isn’t productive and only adds further stress in our lives, we decided we’d figure out how to prevent from turning mild situations into ‘pi$$ing contest$’ with those we interact with. Even if you’re a pissing-contest-champion, winning pointless arguments rarely ever helps anyone move closer to their long-term goals.
|VOGUE (TURKEY), June 2011|
One way to prevent unnecessary stress is to improve communication.
For instance, before getting upset with others, see if you can communicate what you need effectively and in a manner the other person can understand clearly.
An article published by the Mayo Clinic (below) observes behaviors leading to stress and frustration in relationships. The article suggests preventing conflict by communicating your needs assertively without making the other person feel attacked.
As it turns out, people don’t usually care to hear what an insulting person has to say and will dismiss it – even if it is a good point.
Synopsis: Communicate what you want and need without making others feel like they’ve done something wrong.
I hate the way you speak 100 decibels louder than necessary when you’re on the phone…It’s so annoying!
Would you mind making your call in the other room for 30 minutes? I’d like to finish reading/watching TV/doing sit ups and I find it hard to focus when I hear your exciting conversation with [such-and-such].
(note: do not say this in a sarcastic and mean-spirited tone)
Ready to learn more about how to have healthy dialogue with peers, colleagues, friends, family and all human kind? Good for you!
Forget about eye-contact and firm handshakes, here are three ways to make a lasting impression…
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I’m not just sharpening my pencil and erasing words…I’ve personally spent day and night researching other sites, reading pounds and pounds of books about HTML, CSS, blogging, design, art, etc…, interviewing programmers and bloggers, and updating pre-formatted templates by learning how to read CSS and HTML codes (not my native language).
Before this project, I had no idea what “user experience” technically meant. Let’s just say I have much more respect for programmers and what they do to make sites “legible” and “pretty” to a wide range of people.
around town during the workday. We recently discovered the line “Reiss”, an actual favorite of Princess Kate Middleton’s. The tailored cut makes this dress flattering and feminine preventing that I’m-desperately-trying-to-look-older-and-more-professional “look” that I used to rock ten years ago (good bye, ugly suits!).
This dress works [pun unintended] at the office (+ blazer), after work get-togethers, or (if he’s lucky) during your date this weekend (- pumps; + strappy sandals).
|Princess Letzia of Spain & Co.|
option 2 (real-life): all-purpose black dress
cliched “Little Black Dress” is a cliche because it is undeniably a “must-have” piece that belongs in every woman’s closet. A flattering black dress,
or as pop-cultural fashion-themed shows call it, “the LBD” [enter Heidi
Klum], is the Swiss-army knife of your dress repertoire. Its “look” can
vary greatly just by updating the key accessories one wears with it:
shoes, handbag, jewelry, date, etc…If dresses are the solution to rushing out of the house with no time to pair separates, the “LBD” is the optimal solution for busy go-getters. Why do you think busy New Yorkers like to wear black? Efficiency.
jet-setting princess wouldn’t want to add an element of efficiency to
her dressing ritual for the [unlikely] days she’s running [a tad bit] late?
essential item for socializing princesses (whether imaginary or
legendary) is a classic cocktail dress. The dress above is another design by Reiss
which can be worn to a dinner date or dinner-party. The classic A-line
is a feminine and traditional choice creating a ladylike image (a la
our favorite Spanish princess). It’s feminine, elegant, flattering and efficient (see “option 2” above).
In conclusion, during those moments when you want to reflect regal elegance, stay towards the less ostentatious side of the frilly / not-frilly continuum.
|Fallen Princesses Exhibition|